Nearly all the single readers I’ve met have told me how hard it is to find someone who starts with the same basic mindset that they do. They talk about going on dates and trying to figure out when to ask someone “so, do you believe that industrial society has a future?” Or “what do you think the odds are that a resource depleted society can continue economic growth and what would you suggest we do about that?” It is a tough row to hoe. For those who are part of minority cultures, the struggle is even greater – finding that hot hispanic woman or Jewish guy with the dream of living offgrid can be a challenge.
For years, I’ve been getting emails asking me to talk about single life and finding love. And for years, I have avoided this topic because I’m not sure I have anything to add to it. I don’t claim to understand how I got Eric – I mean, I understand the basic mechanics of it, but a friend of ours once observed that if she had to pick someone for me, Eric wouldn’t even have been on the list – because at a superficial level, we seem to be incompatible. I’ve been with people who were compatible with me in all the ways I would intellectually have looked for – and had miserable relationships in some cases. To me, the fact that my marriage is as happy and compatible as it is is honestly something I view as an inexplicable bit of good fortune, or a gift from G-d, depending on my mood. I don’t claim to know how to reproduce it for others.
And yet, there’s manifestly a need. I know there are places for environmentally aware singles, but a lot of them tend to attract people with a different worldview. There’s at least one doomer and one homesteader site I know of, but again, these aren’t for everyone. So I’m wondering – if I tried to set up a place for single people who at least have my blog in common to talk to each other in the hopes that the same miracle or good fortune would descend upon them, would that be worth doing? Is there enough interest to make that worthwhile?