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Sharon Astyk

How To Have Sex as a Foster Parent

<I wrote this several years ago as a joke piece for a foster parent group I was on, and I’ve decided to publish it in case any of you enjoy it.  One of the harsher realities of having 9 kids is that it does cut into your private time, but even more, the psychological heft…

Yesterday morning Isaiah (10) asked me with a grin on his face: “Which one of us is your FAVORITE child?” My answer “None of you. I like Rubeus best. He’s quiet, and soft, never talks to me,  and takes care of almost all his own needs.” D. (11) “But he’s not a kid, he’s a…

18 Months Ago Today…

…on a sticky, sweaty afternoon in July, I received a call from the head of homefinding from my local county social services agency.  These are the folks whose job it is to find homes for kids who come into foster care.  A two-day old newborn boy was being removed from the hospital, because of mental…

In the last few years, a number of political leaders have tried to live on a food stamps budget.  Among others Newark Mayor and political heir-apparent Cory Booker and current and former governors of Colorado and Oregon.  Some have done so to draw attention to the limitations of food stamps, others with the intent of…

My family looks pretty different, and it gets a lot of attention.  The vast majority is positive, and most of the rest is just curious or wondering – but every now and then someone says something REALLY stupid, unkind or offensive.  A lot of the time, if the kids don’t hear it, I let it…

Feeding My Army

It is only on really stressful days when I refer to them as my unholy army of the night.   The rest of the time, at least at meals, it is just “my army” and we really do go through a stunning amount of food.                   For…

A reader sends me a letter and gives me permission to reprint it here, because I suspect he’s not the only one with this question: “I think what you are doing with your family is great, but I feel like you’ve moved away from peak oil and climate change to write about foster care, and…

The fall cool-down has come here, and it is time for soup.  My kids’ current favorite is Portugese style Chick-pea, Garlic, Potato and Sausage, although they liked the vegetarian lentil version I made yesterday when we were out of chicken broth, chick peas and sausage ;-). It is a simple soup – I’ll give it…

Goats for Sale!

If you want to know what we’ve been doing these last few months, read the next post down.  But suffice it to say that nothing on our farm has really had the time and attention it deserves.  And since we’re legally not permitted to feed our goat or cow’s milk to any of our foster…

What the Heck Happened?

In my last post, more than four months ago (oy, that’s bad!), we had just acquired four new children, 11, 3, 3, and 16 months, and were settling in and getting adjusted.  And then I didn’t blog all summer.  Or for most of the first month of autumn.  A few people wondered whether I was…