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Read Aloud

I should have known, but did not, that being read aloud to was a learned skill. It never occurred to me to think about it from my privileged place in the world of literacy. I was, for a time, though a teacher of writing, a fish who swam in words without thinking of the water.…

We adopted him on Wednesday, with 30+ family and friends in attendance. It was fabulous. The judge did a wonderful job of including ALL my children in what was a special day for our family, and then we partied. The funniest moment was that the lawyer had spelled his middle name incorrectly (Raphael/Rafael) and the…

Ambiguous Anniversaries

Exactly a year ago at the end of a crazy, long week (Eric’s final grades due Tues, thought we were getting three kids Wed., annual “hey, let us look under your beds and in your closets” foster care recertification, which annually gives me PTSD because my limited cleaning skills get close scrutiny on Thursday, heavy…

The Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption has done more to get kids in care adopted than just about anyone else – their facebook page and websites have done a lot to draw attention to the needs of kids for families.  The biggest new face of foster adoption comes from an adoptive family that put up…

18 Months Ago Today…

…on a sticky, sweaty afternoon in July, I received a call from the head of homefinding from my local county social services agency.  These are the folks whose job it is to find homes for kids who come into foster care.  A two-day old newborn boy was being removed from the hospital, because of mental…

My family looks pretty different, and it gets a lot of attention.  The vast majority is positive, and most of the rest is just curious or wondering – but every now and then someone says something REALLY stupid, unkind or offensive.  A lot of the time, if the kids don’t hear it, I let it…

What the Heck Happened?

In my last post, more than four months ago (oy, that’s bad!), we had just acquired four new children, 11, 3, 3, and 16 months, and were settling in and getting adjusted.  And then I didn’t blog all summer.  Or for most of the first month of autumn.  A few people wondered whether I was…

Sundry

Lots of stuff to update you all on. First, the family expansion project – still nothing new. After three months of waiting, we’ve decided to expand our looking in a few different ways – our county just doesn’t have a placement, and after all the work of getting ready, we’re anxious to get one. Meanwhile,…

There are ten children in my house, but six of them are phantoms. No, we haven’t gotten a foster placement or heard anything new since the two weeks in August when we were asked to take two separate groups of five kids each. Both of those placements fell through, and there has been nothing since,…

Quick Update

Just to keep you all updated, we learned yesterday that the children’s social worker has decided to separate the children, and place them in three homes. Two will stay with the current foster mother, one with one home, and they are seeking a home for one child and the newborn. Since we will take larger…