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100 Kinds of Foster Parents

If you’ve thought about foster parenting at all, even for a couple of minutes, you probably grasp that someone has to do it. Because the truth is that kids whose parents can’t care for them has been a global problem for all of human history. It is a problem that could get better or worse…

Five Little Pieces of Paper

Take five little pieces of paper, and write down the five things that matter most to you in your life, whatever they are. Your parents. Your partner. Your kids, Your community. Your grand passion – art or the Red Sox, guitar or hunting or knitting. Your home. Your favorite chair. Your dreams for the future.…

Read Aloud

I should have known, but did not, that being read aloud to was a learned skill. It never occurred to me to think about it from my privileged place in the world of literacy. I was, for a time, though a teacher of writing, a fish who swam in words without thinking of the water.…

Ambiguous Anniversaries

Exactly a year ago at the end of a crazy, long week (Eric’s final grades due Tues, thought we were getting three kids Wed., annual “hey, let us look under your beds and in your closets” foster care recertification, which annually gives me PTSD because my limited cleaning skills get close scrutiny on Thursday, heavy…

The Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption has done more to get kids in care adopted than just about anyone else – their facebook page and websites have done a lot to draw attention to the needs of kids for families.  The biggest new face of foster adoption comes from an adoptive family that put up…

My family looks pretty different, and it gets a lot of attention.  The vast majority is positive, and most of the rest is just curious or wondering – but every now and then someone says something REALLY stupid, unkind or offensive.  A lot of the time, if the kids don’t hear it, I let it…

A reader sends me a letter and gives me permission to reprint it here, because I suspect he’s not the only one with this question: “I think what you are doing with your family is great, but I feel like you’ve moved away from peak oil and climate change to write about foster care, and…

What the Heck Happened?

In my last post, more than four months ago (oy, that’s bad!), we had just acquired four new children, 11, 3, 3, and 16 months, and were settling in and getting adjusted.  And then I didn’t blog all summer.  Or for most of the first month of autumn.  A few people wondered whether I was…

Did You Miss Me?

So it has been an embarassingly long time since I last wrote anything for this blog.  Long enough that I owe you all an apology.  It started out simply enough – I did something I’ve done a million times, picked up a full water bucket for our cow.  Not sure what I did differently, but…

This essay is a little different than most of my stuff. It is the result of a collaborative discussion on a foster parenting list I’m a part of by a group of foster parents.  I’ve paraphrased and borrowed and added some things of my own, but this is truly collaborative piece, and meant to be…