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Did You Miss Me?

So it has been an embarassingly long time since I last wrote anything for this blog.  Long enough that I owe you all an apology.  It started out simply enough – I did something I’ve done a million times, picked up a full water bucket for our cow.  Not sure what I did differently, but…

The Talk

No, not about sex, we’ve been having variations on that one for years.  But Eli will be 13 in a couple of weeks, Simon is 11 1/2, Isaiah is 9 and Asher is 7.  Meanwhile most of my recent placements have been school-aged kids, several on the cusp of (or over it) puberty and adolescence.…

The Future of Our Disabled Children

I wrote this in 2008 – now Eli is a 5’9, 120lb almost-teen.  We’re getting ready to celebrate his bar mitzvah in a few months, which will be an adaptive celebration of not only what Eli can do, but also what our community has done for him over the years.  Adolescence and autism combine with…

The Bilateral Symmetry Song

This is being sung in my household by a parade of boys carrying Baby Z. around and singing to him.  I offer it to you, well, because I find it awfully amusing.  Perhaps you can guess what’s on the homeschool agenda here at the farm lately.  It is mostly the work of the boys, with…

Brian Kaller has a fascinating and lovely essay about talking to his daughter about things that aren’t real, or aren’t here now.  He begins from the point of Santa Claus, but the essay is a brilliant meditation on how a parent can talk to their children about the losses in the natural world in an…

I wrote this five years ago, but I think all the discussion of free-range parenting merits a reconsideration.  My kids are now 7, 9, 11, and 12, and they range much further and freer than they did five years ago, but still I’m more careful than my parents – not because of fear of strangers,…

So the Poor are People…Really?

A week ago, one of our former foster sons celebrated his ninth birthday.  He’s now living with family in another state, and we have kept in regular touch.  We sent a gift, a card with some pictures we thought he’d enjoy, and on the afternoon of his birthday, we tried to call and wish him…

Throw a Spitball, Go to Jail

I am a homeschooler, a private schooler and a public schooler, and as such, don’t have a strong ideological commitment to any of the above – I think they all have their place. My oldest son has severe autism and attends a private school for children with autism, but paid for and managed by the…

The Story of M.

As you may remember, after waiting for a long time for a sibling placement, Eric and I took what was supposed to be a weekend placement of a little boy, M. back in October. We picked him up on a Thursday afternoon, anticipating he’d go to his father on Monday, but for various reasons, that…

Moving On

Thursday was Eli’s end of school graduation – and I thought in honor I’d re-run a post I wrote at ye olde blogge back in 2009. One of the hardest parts of addressing our changing world is dealing with shifting expectations and assumptions, and not getting mired down in sadness or anger. I think one…