The Frontal Cortex

We also only see ourselves in reflections and photographs, so what we see in them doesn't clash with what we think we look like.

We can hear ourselves speak, but that is somewhat altered from what everyone else hears, so when we hear ourselves in a recording, it sounds foreign.

Even with pictures, we like pictures that are mirror images of ourselves more than pictures that are the proper orientation, I think because we are more familiar with our face in a reflection than in a photograph.

Posted by: Colst | February 10, 2008 11:21 AM

You could get all philosophical about this or you could think about the way in which we actually hear or own voice. We not only hear our voice from the outside world but also resonating from the interior of our body outwards - causing the bones and various parts of the auditory system to resonate. Others don't hear this nor do we if we're listening to our voice obviously we don't either.

Posted by: Person | February 10, 2008 12:58 PM

I think most people are uncomfortable with hearing their own voice because the voice tells so much about a person. Hearing it without the distraction of making conversation makes people feel naked and vulnerable.

Posted by: Paradigm | February 10, 2008 3:28 PM

echoes are auditory reflections (if somewhat distorted) and people have been yelling in caves for longer that i've been around. so, i disagree with your statement about modern technologies being needed to capture our voices as others hear them ...

to the point though, i think plenty of radio broadcasters really enjoy their voices and your particular wincing is a lot more like those first pubic hairs that leave us uncomfortable and questioning.

Posted by: arlo | February 10, 2008 8:35 PM

>>I don't mind looking at visual reflections (photographs) of myself

I think many people actually do dislike seeing photographs of themselves. One time I was at a wedding and the groom, knowing I was into photography and had brought my camera and lenses, asked me to take some candid shots of everyone. The groom's mother became very (irrationally) upset when I pointed the camera at her, as in, "Don't every take a photograph of me. Please delete that. I am very upset that you did that." I can tell you that this particular instance had nothing to do with cultural beliefs, and heck, the groom himself was a professional photographer. In my limited experience of taking photographs of people, less than 10% are truly candid in front of a camera, and unless it's a super flattering shot, ~50% dislike their own photos.

I think the difference between seeing one's own image and hearing one's own voice is that in the case of the image we can blame it on the instrument. Taking a good photograph of a person under the right lighting conditions with a natural expression can be tricky, and people know this fact. The camera "lies". It's just as easy, with the help of photoshop or good makeup, to look better on camera than in person. The voice, on the other hand? There's no instrument interpreting things, and there is almost nothing we can do modify this aspect of ourselves, so we must accept our voices exactly as they are.

Posted by: Rachael | February 11, 2008 10:10 AM

Jad (Radiolab's host) and I have often referred to that feeling of hearing your own voice as 'The Self-Loathing.' We both have bad cases of it. But our title for it, doesn't really get at the cause. I suspect it's an '"uncanny valley" sort of thing. When you hear yourself, it sounds uncannily like you - but not *exactly* as you hear your own voice from within your own cranial resonance chamber. It's that distance which sends the shivers up your spine.

Posted by: Ellen | February 11, 2008 5:15 PM

Putting aside your self-consciousness, it's a fantastic interview and Natasha seemed quite taken with you...and your age. I've been listening to that podcast for a good year now and should be of general interests to readers of this blog. You and Natasha Mitchell are doing great work bringing this kind of insight to the unscientific like me.

Posted by: OutOfContext | February 14, 2008 11:35 AM

Your distaste is partially subconscious and you probably will never know all the reasons. The Question is what do we choose to believe about yourselves. The journey of loving and accepting stuttering in your youth is as good as it gets.Use that digital recorder or switch on the mic, have fun with it.

Posted by: Aaron | February 21, 2008 5:45 AM