Jason Kuznicki has a terrific post at Positive Liberty about the legal and personal difficulties he will encounter as he and his husband Scott prepare to adopt a child. Yes, the post rambles a bit, but it really touches on how difficult it can be on him. Imagine this scenario and think about how you’d handle it: his parents do not accept his marriage, his husband’s parents do. His parents will not allow his husband in their home, nor will they even speak about it in their home. And now they’re going to adopt a child. So does that child have one set of grandparents, or two?
This is the very real and tangible result of the bigotry that still pervades our society far too much (though obviously much better than it was in the past). There are still far too many who have to face situations like this, choosing between the one they love and the parents who raised them. It is unimaginably cruel and unfair. Can you imagine ignoring a grandchild because your son is gay? Can you imagine refusing to allow the person your child loves into your home? It’s unconscionable in my view.