Dispatches from the Creation Wars

Jilted Lover Case Dismissed

Says a Utah judge:

A jilted fiance can’t recover the money he spent on an engagement ring or for his vasectomy, the Utah Court of Appeals ruled last week.

The couple dated for three months before getting engaged in July 2004 and prepared for a November wedding. The nuptials were postponed twice, and in late April 2005, the woman broke off the engagement “without any forewarning or explanation,” according to the court’s opinion.

The woman returned her engagement ring, but in November 2005 the former groom-to-be filed a lawsuit seeking compensation for numerous purchases made while the couple were together, said the opinion. He argued that had it not been for the wedding he would not have purchased an engagement ring, financed an Alaskan cruise and a trip to France, or spent $2,400 to help the woman’s son purchase a vehicle.

I still want my records back.

Comments

  1. #1 llDayo
    June 28, 2007

    I’d have to say that if the bride was being dishonest with her intentions of marrying the guy, just so he would spend money on her, that he would have a strong case. I can’t see getting back the money spent on the ring (she at least gave it back which leads me to believe she had the intention of marrying him or else she may have kept it) but the other things, yes, if there was intentional deceit. How you would prove it, I dunno.

  2. #2 BobApril
    June 28, 2007

    Maybe he should consider suing for “breach of promise,” to require her to marry him after all. Could lead to the world’s shortest marriage – she’d have the lawyer draw up the divorce papers to be filed at the courthouse simultaneously with “You may now kiss the bride.”

  3. #3 yoshi
    June 28, 2007

    I still want my records back.

    Heh … it took me a few moments to understand what this comment was referring to. Having never owned a “record” I thought you meant there was some paperwork or something that needed recovering.

  4. #4 BobApril
    June 28, 2007

    Thanks, Yoshi, I needed someone to make me feel old this morning! Now get out of my yard, ya young punk! :-)

  5. #5 kemibe
    June 28, 2007

    As an aside, I would guess that in Utah, vasectomies are about as common as brain transplants.

  6. #6 jba
    June 28, 2007

    “As an aside, I would guess that in Utah, vasectomies are about as common as brain transplants.”

    But just as desperatly needed…

  7. #7 Brian Thompson
    June 28, 2007

    Just to make everyone feel better, I used to own records too. LPs, EPs… I even owned a 45 once! Gramophone Record on wikipedia. I think the only technology I never really got on the bandwagon for was laser discs.

  8. #8 Alison
    June 28, 2007

    I knew what he meant. Heck, I finally got rid of the 78′s I inherited from the ‘rents only a couple of years ago.

    My thought before reading the comments was Ben Folds. . .”And don’t forget to give me back my black t-shirt. . .”

  9. #9 Pieter B
    June 28, 2007

    For those of you with treasured old vinyl recordings that you can’t find on CD, I suggest searching Amazon for “USB turntable.”

  10. #10 Ed Brayton
    June 28, 2007

    Man, now I feel old. And I feel even older knowing that kids growing up today don’t even know what cassette tapes were, all they’ve known are CDs. Us old folks still tend to refer to CDs as “albums” while young people are saying, “Yeah I think I saw one of those in a museum.” I’m going to take my geritol and eat some tapioca pudding.

  11. #11 Dave S.
    June 28, 2007

    Could be worse. I still have some 8-track tapes (Narareth’s Greatest Hits and Meat Loaf Bat out of Hell amoung others), and the stereo to play ‘em. Of course I still have my LP’s and even a few 45′s on vinyl. The 8-track stereo also has a record player … a turntable to you kids out there.

  12. #12 Scott P
    June 28, 2007

    I’m ok with this precedent. Things you purchase for another during a relationship are gifts; there is no quid pro quo. If the purchases are not gifts, then we’re talking about prostitution. (Until you’re married, and then you’re just throwing your money away.)

  13. #13 AnneS
    June 28, 2007

    These are the cases Judge Judy was invented for.

    He should count his blessings. He got off cheap. Or would have, if he hadn’t taken it to court.

  14. #14 jufulu, FCD
    June 28, 2007

    When I got done reading the story, I was thinking that maybe The woman had made a good choice. Assuming she was not deceiving him, I can’t amagine wanting to marry him if he can act that way.

  15. #15 Shawn Smith
    June 28, 2007

    I was wondering where I heard, “I want my records back,” before, and only after searching did I find the reference to Sam Kinison. That must have been it. Thanks for the memories, Ed.

  16. #16 raj
    June 28, 2007

    He actually bought a car for the woman’s kid? How stupid was he?

    The only thing she was obligated to do was to return the engagement ring. She did so. If he was stupid enough to incurr the other expenditures, that’s his loss.

  17. #17 grasshopper
    June 28, 2007

    40 years ago I bought a ring for my first highschool sweetheart. We split up after some years and she kept the ring. Earlier this year, at her funeral, her sister gave me back the ring. It was my sweetheart’s dying wish.

    She had worn it for 40 years.

    Ain’t life funny?

  18. #18 Dr X
    June 28, 2007

    Any of you know about 78s?

  19. #19 Dr X
    June 28, 2007

    Never mind the 78 question. I missed it earlier in the comments.

  20. #20 khan
    June 29, 2007

    There were also 16s.

  21. #21 Dr. X
    June 29, 2007

    “There were also 16s”

    I once had a turntable with that setting, but never saw an actual 16 RPM record.

  22. #22 khan
    June 29, 2007

    “There were also 16s”

    I once had a turntable with that setting, but never saw an actual 16 RPM record.

    My parents had some back in the early ’60s.

  23. #23 ScottH
    June 29, 2007

    You probably can’t get it in vinyl, but Ben Folds Five’s “Song for the Dumped” springs to mind here.

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