Talk about a confused guy:
In a new GQ profile, Rev. Ted Haggard addresses the continued assumptions that he’s gay, following revelations years ago that the prominent evangelical had a drug-fueled sexual relationship with a gay male former escort: “I think that probably, if I were 21 in this society, I would identify myself as a bisexual.”
But, he told GQ’s Kevin Roose: “I’m 54, with children, with a belief system, and I can have enforced boundaries in my life. Just like you’re a heterosexual but you don’t have sex with every woman that you’re attracted to, so I can be who I am and exclusively have sex with my wife and be perfectly satisfied.”
But just like a celibate heterosexual is still heterosexual, a person who is attracted to people of the same sex but doesn’t have sex with members of the same sex is still gay (or bisexual, in this case). One’s sexuality is determined by orientation, not actions.
Straight people can, in fact, engage in gay sex without being gay (both male and female pornstars do it all the time). And gay people can, in fact, engage in straight sex and still be gay. And bisexual people can have sex exclusively with one gender or the other and still remain bisexual.
If you’re attracted to the same sex, you’re gay. If you’re attracted to other sex, you’re straight. If you’re attracted to both, you’re bisexual. And it doesn’t matter what kind of sex you actually engage in, those facts do not change. Haggard deciding (publicly, at least) not to have sex with men does not change the fact that he is either gay or bisexual one bit, any more than celibacy erases one’s sexual orientation.