Unlike straight parents, gay parents cannot go out one night, get drunk and adopt. Unlike straight parents, gay parents have children because they are wanted and planned for. Certainly this was the situation for my (straight) so-called parents, who not only didn’t plan for me and didn’t want me, but they were horribly abusive and neglectful after I was born, and after they’d finished trying to destroy me, they gave me up to the state when I was a teen-ager. I would love to have had Dan Savage or someone like him as one of my parents instead of the violent, hateful wackaloons that I was born to. If anyone is “destroying the fabric of society,” through their behavior, it’s all those people who thoughtlessly pop out unwanted kids.