I’m putting this post under “education” because I define a new term at the end of it. Which, of course, qualifies it to be educational.
By now you’ve probably picked up on the Sexiest Female Scientist list being passed around by some atheist guy, so I won’t bother to link to it and drive up the turd’s traffic. I will, however, give my quick 2 cents on this particular brand of sexism.
However, it’s pretty assy to dismiss not just the intuitions but the actual experiences of a significant number of people who tell you (repeatedly), that they are harmed by X. To dismiss these experiences while saying, “No, give me an argument against X,” is clueless at best.
Look, central to the project of being ethical is recognizing that it’s not all about you. It is not enough to evaluate courses of action on the basis of first principles that seem plausible to you, or of actual experiences you have had — how things impact others matters. That means that listening to what people are telling you about how X impacts them is a pretty crucial step — one that ought to inform not just your thoughts but your actions.
There. That’s it. That is the definition of male privilege. When you, as a man get to substitute your own version of reality for a woman’s, you are exercising male privilege. As a practical example– if you, as a man, decide that no, actually women aren’t or shouldn’t be offended by posting their pictures in a Top 15 Science Hottie post, and then dismiss the opinions of actual women including some of whom you posted about because “they should be flattered”, you are exercising male privilege. You are also a dick.
With that in mind, I take credit for introducing my own term to the blogosphere.
labia puncher (n)- A man whose privileged status allows him to substitute his own opinion/interpretation on the appropriateness of a comment or situation directed at a woman, in lieu of actually considering said woman’s opinion. The labia puncher differs from a mansplainer in that the mansplainer merely reiterates a position already taken by a woman and gets credit for it, while a labia puncher is just a cum-chugging cock gobbler who can’t get a date for obvious reasons.