Richard Cohen is one of those profit-making advocates of gay deconversion, whose work has been used in Uganda to justify laws that promote killing gay people; Rachel Maddow, of course, is the fabulous, intelligent interviewer who ought to be the model for responsible television journalism.
She politely rips him to pieces and most decorously picks her teeth with his splintered bones. I like it.









Comments
Posted by: Andyo
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December 10, 2009 12:01 AM
Richard Cohen is quite literally, a assclown.
This is an oldie but a goodie.
Posted by: Janine, She Wolf Of Pharyngula, OM
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December 10, 2009 12:02 AM
Watch tonight's interview with Jeff Sharlett. It seems that the man who introduced the "Kill The Gays" bill in Uganda is a member of The Family. The Family is the group that started and runs The Presidential Prayer Breakfast. And they have invite this man to be part of the next one in February.
I feel ill.
Posted by: Andyo
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December 10, 2009 12:05 AM
By the way, that video is the one where he makes up an elaborate excuse to fondle George Foreman. That dude is gaaaay.
Posted by: Andyo
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December 10, 2009 12:07 AM
By the way, that video is the one where he makes an up an elaborate excuse to fondle George Foreman. That dude is gaaaay.
Posted by: Andyo
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December 10, 2009 12:09 AM
Double posts are no fun, and even less fun after you refreshed 3 freaking times to make sure you didn't double post.
Posted by: tdanielmidgley
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December 10, 2009 12:12 AM
I can't tell to what extent he's a loathsome individual promoting lies, and to what extent he's a sad little man who's locked away the kind of sexuality he's wanted all his life.
Oh, what the hell. Both.
Posted by: Grant N
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December 10, 2009 12:17 AM
I watched this last night and Cohen really was puke inducing. But if you watch the vids, it gets even weirder. When he talks, the corners of his upper lip, curl up like circus barker's mustache. Really creepy...
Posted by: Midnight Rambler
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December 10, 2009 12:19 AM
FTR, he also fondled Jason Jones when interviewed for The Daily Show (video here). They did a pretty good smackdown of him as well. His wife looks like a Thai picture bride, and you can hear a collective groan from the audience when a picture of her is shown.
Posted by: Tim D.
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December 10, 2009 12:20 AM
Holy cow. Rachel Maddow ripped him apart.
Posted by: Sarah T
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December 10, 2009 12:31 AM
If I could chose to be gay, I would try to seduce Rachel Maddow
Posted by: skeptifem
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December 10, 2009 12:38 AM
who cares what his wife looks like? I am ashamed on behalf of the audience who groans like that when her picture is shown. It has nothing to do with anything unless you buy into hurtful stereotypes.
Posted by: Jarred C.
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December 10, 2009 12:44 AM
Did they groan because of what she looked like, or because he showed a picture of his family as "proof" that he was cured?
Posted by: Midnight Rambler
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December 10, 2009 12:52 AM
Actually, I watched that bit again, and I guess I was confusing my own strong wincing with the audience (which was silent at that point). But he does point to his family and say "I lived a gay life, and came out straight. I love my wife, we have a wonderful physical relationship, and just - bleah! Wouldn't be interested in a guy." Then he doesn't answer whether he still has any attraction to men (though of course you never know how videos get edited).
Posted by: Rorschach
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December 10, 2009 12:55 AM
*shudder*
Who is this freak ?
The revulsion I feel listening to this guy is only equalled by my revulsion for rats and giant spiders.
Posted by: Pygmy Loris
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December 10, 2009 12:56 AM
I, too, would seduce Rachel if I could choose to be a lesbian :)
I want to know how she remains so calm while tearing these guys apart? If I was on a show with annoying jackasses like this I would be standing up shouting at them for rank hypocrisy.
Posted by: bckcntry
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December 10, 2009 12:57 AM
Anybody notice that at 6 minutes, when talking about his website's message, he almost says "myth"?
Posted by: Beth B.
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December 10, 2009 12:59 AM
Hmm. Well, now I'm frankly confused. I'm bisexual, but my parents are neither divorced nor dead, I'm not adopted, I was raised in fairly anti-gay churches, and I fared fairly well with the opposite sex when young. I'm also not a boy with a fragile sense of gender identity, and I'm a girl who bonded well with her mother.
Is it the anti-gay church? Was that the secret to my same-sex attractions? Is it because I'm white? (Though apparently Cohen was mistaken when he included race as a factor. Who knew?)
Or do I not count because I'm only half-gay? In that case, in lieu of death of a parent was it in fact that minor surgery my mom had when I was 15? Would things have been different if I hadn't bonded so well with her?
I do hope Cohen can help me sort this out.
Posted by: hznfrst
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December 10, 2009 1:02 AM
I so want to smash this creep's face into hamburger, but won't because that would be bad...maybe...
Posted by: Pygmy Loris
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December 10, 2009 1:02 AM
Midnight Rambler,
I didn't think Rachel had an audience.
Posted by: Janine, She Wolf Of Pharyngula, OM
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December 10, 2009 1:06 AM
Pygmy Loris, Rachel loves to debate. In the early days of her show, her fake uncle, Pat Buchanan was a semi-regular. As you can guess, they agreed on nothing. One of her great strengths is she can remain calm even when things get personal. I loved how she let Cohen go off on different tangents just to clobber him with the fact that he is unaccredited. It seems like it should be easy to do but sadly, it is not.
Posted by: Jarred C.
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December 10, 2009 1:10 AM
@ Rorschach #15,
Revulsion to rats? But why? Rats are such nice critters*!
*Compared to mice, those mean little buggers.
Posted by: glenister_m
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December 10, 2009 1:12 AM
Wouldn't he be technically bisexual, and he has chosen to live a straight life (while still setting off gaydar as soon as you look at him)?
I would say there is a big difference between someone who is gay and lives a straight life; and someone who is bisexual and lives a straight life. The latter may claim to be 'cured', and not experience other feelings if they have a great relationship with their significant other; but I doubt the former could claim the same.
Posted by: John Morales
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December 10, 2009 1:14 AM
I find Cohen's insincerity and smarminess in that interview rather revolting.
Then again, Maddow's purported personal good-wishes towards him were also palpably insincere.
Posted by: Janine, She Wolf Of Pharyngula, OM
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December 10, 2009 1:17 AM
Beth B, it would seem that you need to grab a tennis racquet, beat a pillow and yell; "Mom! Why! Why! Why did I bond too closely with you!"
Posted by: llewelly
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December 10, 2009 1:17 AM
Pygmy Loris | December 10, 2009 1:02 AM:
Pygmy Loris, Midnight Rambler was referring to the Daily Show video he linked in his earlier comment.
Posted by: Pygmy Loris
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December 10, 2009 1:20 AM
Janine,
Yeah, I used to love watching her debate Buchanan. It was so much fun. I'm just impressed by her ability to remain so calm on camera. If I had a TV show, I'd be the left's version of Glen Beck! Crying about how the Right is destroying my country :)
Posted by: Pygmy Loris
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December 10, 2009 1:22 AM
llewelly,
Ah, that makes so much more sense now :)
Posted by: Shadow
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December 10, 2009 1:22 AM
Is it me - but when the slime is speaking / smiling (is that a mile?) I'm reminded of Jack Nicholson's version of the Joker's smile?
Posted by: redrabbitslife
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December 10, 2009 1:27 AM
Hm. I have a dead parent and a bad relationship with the other, was a loner, and couldn't get a boyfriend to save my life in school. But nope, straight.
Though I, three, would make an exception for Rachel :P She took him apart.
Cohen would be way happier if he'd just found the right guy, IMHO.
Posted by: Levi in NY
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December 10, 2009 1:28 AM
What the fuck? He wanted to fuck men...because he craved a bond that he didn't have with his father? That's messed up. And I really don't think this is what gay men are after.
Posted by: Aratina Cage
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December 10, 2009 1:40 AM
I'm betting that a certain troll will be visiting this thread soon... *sigh*
But yes, I loved watching Maddow take this fucker down without losing control. She is the best thing that ever happened to cable news punditry, in my opinion.
Posted by: 朴競花/박경화 (Gyeong Hwa)
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December 10, 2009 1:42 AM
At least rats and spiders are honest about their intents. This guy is neither "cured" nor interested in helping gays.
Posted by: llewelly
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December 10, 2009 1:44 AM
Greg has more Maddow on the Ugandan law.
Posted by: Talen Lee
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December 10, 2009 1:54 AM
The thing that gets right on my tits about the whole affair - not that I have a pair, I worriedly notice - is his use of 'hate crime.'
A hate crime is when someone commits a criminal act for reasons motivated by means of race, religion, sexuality or all those categorical things.
An unfair judgment? Perhaps. A hair-trigger reaction to a sensitive topic? Maybe. But a hate crime? Never. He was not beaten. He was not hurt. He had no criminal act, no act he could prosecute; so at worst, he was discriminated against. But Hate Crime sounds so much more visceral.
Further, he claims the book is not about curing homosexuality; yet on the cover, it says 'healing homosexuality.' That's part of the title of the damn book.
Our words through loose use will lose their edge, and this man is a fine demonstrator of how loosely some will use them.
Posted by: ElitistB
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December 10, 2009 2:32 AM
This is definitely crass of me, but, this guy is totally gay.
Posted by: sarahb
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December 10, 2009 2:33 AM
This guy is ridiculous. He claims he is the victim of a hate crime because he got kicked out of a psychological association? WTF? Mean while he's stoking the fire for real hate crimes to happen. This guy is a lying sack of shit.
The very thin silver lining of all this is that it makes me love Rachel Maddow even more. As if I weren't crushed out enough!
Posted by: SebastesMan
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December 10, 2009 2:43 AM
This despicable bastard still gets his jollies with men--throught cuddling. He's a bisexual who satisfies the "gay half" in a nonsexual way. It makes me twitchy when the media acts as if sexuality is an either-or dichotomy. It feeds into the BS from people like this Cohen guy. Alfred Kinsey should be doing about 400rpms in his grave.
Posted by: Jarred C.
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December 10, 2009 2:52 AM
For all those getting riled up about this guy, here's a nice little read that might bring you back into a good mood:
some thought candy
Posted by: Rorschach
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December 10, 2009 2:52 AM
Nah, just stereotypingly stupid.
Posted by: https://me.yahoo.com/jm_birkett#20113
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December 10, 2009 2:54 AM
I was impressed, I've never seen anyone on TV spout so much harmful bullshit and not end up shouting and interrupting the interviewer the whole time.
I did find it amusing how he's adamant that it's not a "cure", yet refers to his own "healing process". So he's just helping other people heal I guess. Not a cure at all.
Posted by: Quinn O
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December 10, 2009 2:55 AM
Just for the record ...
About 4 minutes into the first clip, she brings up the book's claims that homosexuals are much more likely to molest children. He responds, "actually you know, that one particular quote, when I do republish it, uh reprint it, we will extract that from it because we don't want such things to be used against homosexual persons."
The real reason the passage should be removed is that it isn't true.
Posted by: Jarred C.
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December 10, 2009 2:58 AM
@#41 "The real reason the passage should be removed is that it isn't true."
I thought the same thing when I heard that.
Posted by: Rorschach
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December 10, 2009 3:04 AM
@ 39,
I was referring to your "crass" comment, not Cohen btw.
Posted by: Wowbagger, Man-Hating Man of Pharyngula
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December 10, 2009 3:17 AM
'Just pray and God will take it away...it doesn't work like that because there's deep psychological reasons for this...'
Er, no - the reason God doesn't take it away is because if God exists, he's the one who made you that way in the first place. If he's watching, he's reveling in your suffering and misery; it's all part of his 'plan', apparently.
Posted by: mcnadj
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December 10, 2009 3:27 AM
It's so strange that he takes the fact that his work is being used to justify the murder innocent people so lightly. Regardless of anything else, a good person should be very sober with an outcome like that, and should work relentlessly to shout about such misrepresentation. Removing a paragraph in the third printing is a fucking joke, if he were a decent person he would add to the front of the book a chapter on how the Ugandan policy is wrong, followed by a dozen chapters on basic modern philosophy and justice.
Posted by: Rorschach
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December 10, 2009 3:34 AM
Well, I think we covered that one.
Posted by: Haymaker
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December 10, 2009 3:49 AM
Rachel dropped an elbow from the sky on this guys ass!!! The best in the biz and doesn't have to shout and talk over someone to get her facts across or shred the guest's credentials in this case.
Posted by: SBC Apostate
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December 10, 2009 4:20 AM
Penn and Teller gave this self-denialist a good thrashing on the "Family Values" episode of Bullshit! They referred to him throughout as "Dick".
Posted by: negentropyeater
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December 10, 2009 4:24 AM
Here is the full video including the part showing one of the major proponents of the Uganda Anti Homosexuality Bill 2009, Stephen Langa, teaching from Coming Out Straight.
Clear evidence that Cohen has blood on his hands.
Posted by: katieinseattle
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December 10, 2009 4:41 AM
Fuck, his fucking smirk pisses me off so hard. I want to stick his head in a microwave.
Fuck.
Posted by: Caine, ghetto féministe
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December 10, 2009 4:41 AM
To say Cohen is despicable isn't saying enough. He's the exact type of person who would have delighted in making up the rules for the Inquisition, and the first to yell "Persecution! and Heretic!" if someone so much as looked at him sideways. He's not even worth spitting on.
Posted by: devnulljp
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December 10, 2009 4:57 AM
True, but a swift kick in the nuts is long overdue wouldn't you agree?
Posted by: _Bump_
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December 10, 2009 5:09 AM
"I'm reading from your book, dude." I friggin love Rachel.
Posted by: Caine, ghetto féministe
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December 10, 2009 5:21 AM
devnulljp @ 52:
*Thinks for about 1 second* Can't argue with you there. I don't think a kick would do it though. Considering he's been more than happy to help institute a death policy for gay people, I'd rather he didn't keep his nuts at all. Perhaps he'd manage some empathy then, although I doubt it.
Posted by: Walton, Marquis of Carabas
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December 10, 2009 5:26 AM
Maddow came across as a remarkably fair and professional interviewer, which is distinctly unusual on US TV. Although she obviously deplores what this guy stands for, she spoke civilly and calmly and gave him time to speak. Contrast this with the way most American political TV personalities - Bill O'Reilly, Keith Olbermann and the like - interview people they dislike; they typically end up shouting at and berating the interviewee.
I don't agree with Maddow on a number of issues, but I can respect the fact that she does her job properly, rather than just ranting at the camera.
Posted by: Wowbagger, Man-Hating Man of Pharyngula
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December 10, 2009 5:45 AM
John Morales, #23, wrote:
Yep, smarmy is the word I use. He's certainly exhibiting more than his fair share of smarm* in the interview.
*Apparently 'smarm' isn't word. How odd.
Posted by: negentropyeater
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December 10, 2009 6:14 AM
Exporting Homophobia to Africa
Posted by: shonny
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December 10, 2009 6:15 AM
That delectable Rachel must be a major asset to any network. And she doesn't talk over people either.
Poor dimwitted sod walking into that redressing!
Posted by: negentropyeater
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December 10, 2009 6:18 AM
damn blockquotes...
Exporting Homophobia to Africa
There is also a complete video documentation filmed during the March 2009 antigay conference in Uganda. The exert used by Rachel Maddow showing Stephen Langa quoting Richard Cohen's criminally wrong book comes from this documentation (see video in my post #49).
Also, Warren Throckmorton, a College Psychology Professor, has a very extensive list of posts on his blog exposing the criminally dangerous stupidity of Richard Cohen.
When will this stop ?
Posted by: Tuff
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December 10, 2009 6:37 AM
I think the fundamental question was missing:
"And what are the deep psychological traumas that make one person STRAIGHT?"
Idiot: "None, that's normal!!!"
Interviewer: "Hence your claims are just motivated by prejudice and hate".
Posted by: Adrian Tippetts
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December 10, 2009 6:41 AM
I really hope that more attention is given to this extremely dangerous 'ex-gay' movement - not just cranks like Cohen, but the Exodus movement (run by Alan Chambers, who claims to be a former homosexual, as he calls it, married with ADOPTED kids - he cannot have his own for some reason....).
The Ugandan government took inspiration from Exodus and people promoting the claim that 'change is possible' - it fuelled the hatred and gave them the excuse to start the pogroms against the gay community.
It's emerged that one of the major donors to the exgay movement is Howard Ahmanson, a 'dominionist' and also one of the major donors to the Discovery Institute.
PS Well done to www.boxturtlebulletin.com for their commentary on the events in Uganda over the last 9 months.
Posted by: Tuff
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December 10, 2009 6:49 AM
Another one: "Mr Unlicensed Ex-Gay Idiot, what are the psychological problems of apes, penguins, dolphins and individuals of virtually every animal species that have homosexual behavior??"
Posted by: The Tim Channel
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December 10, 2009 6:59 AM
This fellow is in deeper denial than the dude on Mad Men.
FWIW, he wouldn't last ten minutes in Uganda before somebody claimed he was a homo and they offed him.
Enjoy.
Posted by: Pinkydead
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December 10, 2009 7:03 AM
That's brilliant, but I think it's disingenuous of many comments to the suggest that this guy is gay.
He's clearly bi-sexual.
Posted by: R. Schauer
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December 10, 2009 7:21 AM
I don't know if this is appropriate but Mr. Cohen's name and looks suggests he is of jewish heritage. The same jewish heritage that suffered the holocaust...yet, here he is providing fuel to start a holocaust against gays in Uganda.
How f*cking stupid can one be?
BTW, Rachel ripped him a new asshole.
Posted by: negentropyeater
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December 10, 2009 7:23 AM
Adrian Tippets,
it's not only the ex-gay movement that's exporting its homophobia to Uganda and other African countries, but also many conservative US Evangelicals (ranging from megachurch minister Rick Warren to Holocaust revisionist ).
They portray victories for equality in the US as evidence for the encroaching gay conspiracy and a worldwide neo-colonial threat, exciting bigotry and violence among their African audiences.
Some kind of collateral damage of the US culture wars.
Posted by: Insightful Ape
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December 10, 2009 7:28 AM
That was just amazing. Up to the last moment.
If you only compare that to how Bill'O treats his guests.
Posted by: MAJeff, OM
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December 10, 2009 7:46 AM
Maddow keeps digging, and last night's show deals directly with The Family and its connection to the Ugandan bill.
http://www.goodasyou.org/good_as_you/2009/12/video-focus-on-the-family.html
Posted by: Occam's Machete
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December 10, 2009 8:17 AM
The link between this charlatan Cohen et al. and the legislation in Uganda seems clear and well documented. If they ever got as far as imprisoning or executing someone under this law in Uganda, could those who helped and encouraged it in the US be charged with a crime or sued for damages?
I hope it never gets that far but if it does it would be good to see the bigots face some serious consequences.
Posted by: Anders
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December 10, 2009 8:26 AM
That's beautiful.
This is also a good reminder that there are not always two sides to every story. Sometimes the responsible thing to do as a journalist is to shame the proponents of one side of the argument. American journalists seem fixated with the idea that both sides need to be given the same respect and treatment no matter what. That's not always the right thing to do. Sometimes the thing to do is to shine a light at the fuckers and watch them squirm. This is a perfect illustration of that.
Posted by: Laura
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December 10, 2009 8:30 AM
So... "40% of molestations are committed by people who engage in homosexual activity". Doesn't that mean that 60% are committed by straight people? Am I missing something?
Posted by: Anders
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December 10, 2009 8:40 AM
[quote]Am I missing something?[/quote]
That it's not a factually correct statement.
Posted by: Laura
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December 10, 2009 8:45 AM
Other than it being inaccurate. Why include it in the list of statistics when it doesn't even help their case? It's effectively saying 'the majority of molestations are committed by heterosexuals'.
Posted by: lordshipmayhem
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December 10, 2009 8:57 AM
Rorschach @ #14: Rats can make nice pets, and so can large spiders (especially tarantulas).
On the other hand, if Cohen were taken to an SPCA shelter, they'd have to put him down as unadoptable, possibly rabid.
Posted by: negentropyeater
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December 10, 2009 9:09 AM
#73
because it implies that a homosexual is much more likely to molest children than a heterosexual.
This garbage comes from :
Paul Cameron, “Homosexuality and Child Molestation,” Psychological Reports, 58 (1986) 327-337, as quoted in M. Maddoux, Answers to the Gay Deception. 62-63
Paul Cameron is a well known
editor of the peer reviewed Empirical Journal of Same Sex Sexual Behaviorcrackpot, whose entire time seems devoted to proving that homosexuals are evil.Posted by: lordshipmayhem
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December 10, 2009 9:14 AM
Laura @ 71:
No, it means that like many a woo-ster, Cohen failed at Grade 5 math. See Fox News and their statistics about belief in anthropogenic global warming, which added up to something like 120%.
In other words, Cohen is NOT smarter than a 5th grader.
Posted by: CanonicalKoi
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December 10, 2009 9:27 AM
@ Wowbagger #56 -- Certainly "smarm" is a word. It's in the OED, for crying out loud. Just because Windows spellcheck (and my Mac as well, I must admit) don't recognize it doesn't make it not exist.
If only it did....we could all imagine that a smarmy bastard like Cohen doesn't exist and pop! He ceases to be a murderer-by-proxy.
Posted by: Katherine Lorraine, Chaton de la Mort
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December 10, 2009 9:35 AM
@Laura - I think you hit it right on the head.
The majority of molestations are done by straight, white, middle-aged men, usually married with kids, and they tend to be done to their own children or children they have a relationship with. Boys or girls, it doesn't matter, I think I read somewhere that more boys than girls are molested, but I'm not gonna start researching it on my work computer.
Not related to Laura:
Cohen makes me sick, really. He's lying about his credentials to try to sell a book filled with lies and half-truths. If this guy is the reason for the Uganda bill, then if I were him (forbid the thought) I would be standing up and fiercely railing against it. He seemed almost apologetic to the Uganda bill in that interview.
Also, Rachel Maddow totally owned him. I think I love her.
Posted by: daveau
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December 10, 2009 9:49 AM
I caught this last night. I just loved watching that lying weasel get nailed. Did anyone see Rachel on Meet the Press this past summer? (don't remember exactly when) She was so much better prepared than David Gregory. Came in with a sheaf of paper and took notes on everything anyone said during the show, so she could use it later. She's great.
Posted by: Foggg
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December 10, 2009 10:04 AM
@ Walton #55
You have somehow convinced yourself the "shouting and berating" Olbermann engages is with interviewees. In fact, he virtually never interviews "people he dislikes" or opposes.
Posted by: David Marjanović
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December 10, 2009 10:06 AM
Or rather that there are exactly two sides to every argument in the first place.
Posted by: a_ray_in_dilbert_space
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December 10, 2009 10:34 AM
I'm afraid that homophobia is nothing new in Africa. When I was in the Peace Corps, the health and admin staff were very explicit about what would happen to you if you were found to be gay--prison if you survived your arrest.
I did engage some African friends in conversations about my gay and lesbian friends in the US. Most simply refused to believe that homosexuality was even possible, and the rest said, "Oh, we don't have that here." If you shoot anyone who comes out of the closet, after awhile people keep the door closed and then the rest of the society doesn't have to confront reality.
Posted by: Bill Dauphin, avec fromage
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December 10, 2009 10:37 AM
If I thought it were actually possible for gay people to change their sexual-preference "stripes," I would try to seduce Rachel Maddow!
Well, not really, of course; I'm a happily married man (hi, Dear!)... but she is way up at the top of this straight man's Damn, It's a Shame She's a Lesbian™ list. I objectify her for her big, hot, sexy...
...
...brain!
Posted by: BlueIndependent
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December 10, 2009 10:58 AM
I love it: "In the third edition..." Ya, your methods are so thorough you missed patent, unqualified, unprofessional ravings *in the transition* from the first edition to the second. In fact, that your crap got published at all is an example of the shoddiness of the review process from the very outset. I want to know who published his book even the first time, because if it's a right-wing paper mill (and chances are fairly high that it is since Cohen's ilk are so deathly concerned about homosexuality), then we'll have concrete confirmation that right-wing verbal fanaticism is killing people.
Cohen can play "aw shucks" and "gosh darn those bad people" all he wants. He's a wolf in sheep's clothing, as reading the book sand his own website hows. He couldn't defend the race bit, yet, it's in the book. He couldn't defend the anti-gay rhetoric, yet it's in his book. He can't defend the stats, yet they are in his book. Similarly to Ron Paul, seemingly every nefarious con artist in publishing has converged on Cohen's career to spread crap using his poor old name. In fact it appears everyone affiliated with that effort, including himself, has been kicked out of or disbarred from nearly every professional governing body they've been a part of. This guy must have his masters from the same place Orly Taitz got hers.
Posted by: Tom S. Fox
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December 10, 2009 11:06 AM
I would seduce her if I could turn her straight.
Posted by: Bill Dauphin, avec fromage
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December 10, 2009 11:17 AM
glenister_m (@22):
Hmmm... I would say the proper term for a bisexual person living a "straight" life is not so much cured, but monogamous. People in exclusive relationships don't stop experiencing "other feelings," they just don't act on those feelings. The difference lies in what set of people they're not cheating with. I wouldn't assume a bisexual in an exclusive relationship with a person of the opposite sex was "cured" (an odious term, in this context, on so many levels) unless he or she made that claim. What's really going on is that that person is not cheating with roughly twice as many people (which, I know, sounds like a Woody Allen joke, but you know what I mean).
If all the people Richard Cohen would cheat with are all other men (which you have to suspect is the case, just from listening to him), then he's still gay, and his marriage is a sham... even if he is able to "close his eyes and think of England" for the sake of promoting his hateful and greedy program of
conversionharassment.Posted by: circleh.wordpress.com
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December 10, 2009 11:24 AM
P Z forgot to mention that Rachel Maddow is not only a lesbian, she is the first openly gay newscaster who was given her own show. Seeing her go up against that Cohen guy was priceless. He had "patholiogical liar" all over him!
Posted by: MrKafka
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December 10, 2009 11:40 AM
I just want to point out that Cohen's wife is Korean, not Thai. It was a marriage arranged by Sun Myung Moon.
Posted by: hpflash.paul
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December 10, 2009 11:44 AM
BlueIndependent @ #84 asked about Cohen's publisher.
According to Amazon it is Oakhill Press, which describes itself as
Fact-checking doesn't appear to be one of their prime services.
Posted by: heironymous
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December 10, 2009 11:45 AM
The question I wanted to see asked was "Why?"
Why do you feel the need to "heal" gay people?
It's always seemed to me that the people who hate gay people the most are the ones who haven't really spent time with gay people living their lives.
Posted by: ChrisH
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December 10, 2009 11:47 AM
Being a Brit I'm not really familiar with Rachel Maddow.
Reminds me a bit of Paxman in a good way. ;-)
Posted by: RagingBullwinkle
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December 10, 2009 11:47 AM
Off topic but Squid related:
http://www.theonion.com/content/opinion/what_kind_of_sick_fuck_would?utm_source=onion_rss_daily
Posted by: RickR
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December 10, 2009 11:48 AM
Bill Dauphin- "close his eyes and think of
EnglandHugh Jackman"Fixed.
Posted by: Kaddath
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December 10, 2009 11:57 AM
"Former homosexual" must be code for "I'm back in the closet and deluded that everyone believes my I'm not gay anymore".
And as for removing that paragraph on upcoming editions of his book, sorry, but that's a bell you can unring you douche bag.
Posted by: https://me.yahoo.com/wmdkitty#83021
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December 10, 2009 12:02 PM
Maddow is the consummate hunter, tearing her prey apart with style, grace, and humor.
And for the record, yes, I'd totally go lesbian for her.
Posted by: The Pint
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December 10, 2009 12:03 PM
I love Rachel - her professionalism and ability to skewer scumbags like Cohen without resorting to cheap theatrics and hysterics is always a treat to see. It's also damned sexy.
However, I still feel in desperate need of a shower after listening to Cohen's crap. Smarmy indeed. *shudder*
Posted by: ChrisH
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December 10, 2009 12:03 PM
Kaddath @ 94
A bit like our old friend, a certain Mr Haggard.
Posted by: Michelle R
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December 10, 2009 12:12 PM
We have an assclown like that here in French Canada (Best canada in the land.) I forget his name, but he gives conventions about "how parents can develop their children's heterosexual potential".
Posted by: Paul W., OM
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December 10, 2009 12:12 PM
If she could choose not to, me too. I love her to pieces.
On the other hand, I don't think this was anywhere near the top of her form.
Cohen is an easy target, and she did fine, but could have skewered him much more vigorously and decisively.
He kept repeating the talking point that he's just offering a service to people with unwanted homosexual feelings.
That's bullshit and she should have decisively pounded him the first or second time he said it. I'm pretty sure she could quote him saying very clear things about how you shouldn't want those feelings, i.e., that you can change, and something is wrong with you if you don't want to change. Both are important claims and both are false.
I think she also failed to pound the nail quite in when she talked about him being thrown out of professional organizations for counselors, etc.
She should have briefly said why, because that's important, too: the scientific evidence says that homosexuality is not a choice, and that conversion therapy does not work and is often harmful.
I wonder if she pulled her punches a bit, semi-intentionally, so that she wouldn't seem like such a partisan dyke. If so, that sucks. I want my partisan dykes to cream these evil shits as clearly and decisively as possible.
Posted by: Bill Dauphin, avec fromage
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December 10, 2009 12:16 PM
heironymous (@90):
I think Rachel elicited the answer to that question, even though she didn't ask it directly: MONEY. I mean, did you hear what they're charging for their counseling, classes, study materials, etc.?
It would be nice to think people like Cohen had a sincere, albeit misguided, compassionate concern for the (almost certainly nonexistent) immortal souls of their fellow humans who are "afflicted" with teh gay... but one look at that price list puts the lie to any such hope.
In a way, I'd almost have more respect (to the extent that there can be order among infinitesimal values) for an honest homophobe than I do for this clown, who knows what it's like to be gay in a largely disapproving society and chooses, instead of doing anything actually helpful, to profit off his fellow homosexuals' suffering... and to do so in a way that tends to exacerbate that suffering by reinforcing the latent homophobia in the straight population.
Jebus... the more I think about this, the more pissed I get.
Posted by: pdferguson
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December 10, 2009 12:18 PM
This was an astonishing interview, if only because it is so rare to see a news host not just serve as a passive sounding board for whatever agenda their guests want to promote (although Cohen tried, shamelessly plugging his web site.) It is segments like this that makes Maddow stand out from the rest of the crowd.
It is great to see Maddow continue to report on the nefarious activities of "The Family", because that organization really needs the bright disinfecting light of publicity shone on it. In part because of her reporting (and Jeff Sharlet's excellent book), the local tax authorities have partially rescinded the tax exempt status of the infamous C Street house, which would not have happened without the publicity.
Posted by: Paul W., OM
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December 10, 2009 12:18 PM
BTW, let me pound my nail in a little further.
The reason it's important that those two claims are both false is that he's contributing to people being killed on the grounds that they can change, and if they choose not to they're incorrigibly evil and unrepentant sinners.
He's offering a phony "choice," and people are going to die for knowing better than to make that choice.
Posted by: Bill Dauphin, avec fromage
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December 10, 2009 12:20 PM
RickR (@93):
I'll have to take your word for it on the choice of names, but ROFL at the concept!
Posted by: Darrell E
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December 10, 2009 12:35 PM
This whole thing is pretty depressing. But, it was very nice to watch Rachel expose this guy as a dishonest moron. I suppose he may actually just be one more deluded unhappy victim of a vicious subculture trying desperately to fit himself into the prescribed mold.
I would also like to comment that although I can understand why it is important at this time for gay people to stress that being gay is not a choice, I think it sucks. It is just one more indicator of how far we have yet to go. It should not matter in the slightest whether a persons sexual orientation is determined by their genetics and developement, or by their choice. It just pisses me off, or alternatively makes me sad, that it is not obvious to most people that everyone should be free to CHOOSE to have sex with anyone else they want to, consensually of course. I understand the reasons why this is currently a problem, but all the reasons suck.
Posted by: Bobber
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December 10, 2009 12:36 PM
Rachel Maddow continues to provide evidence that you can be (a) a serious journalist, (b) unabashedly progressive, and (c) murderously polite, all at the same time. I like Olbermann for his gladiatorial liberalism, but for smart commentary, I prefer Rachel.
Posted by: AdamK
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December 10, 2009 12:49 PM
She got her doctorate at Oxford on a Rhodes scholarship. Not as non-British as most of us.
Per Wikipedia:
Posted by: Cerberus, unnatural product of en-OMnomnom-ification
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December 10, 2009 12:53 PM
@ Bill Dauphin #86
Speaking as someone dating a bisexual, yeppers! They're still turned on by both sexes just like straight people are still turned on by the opposite sex when they get hitched, even if they are super duper in love or even in NRE.
I would argue there are three and probably only three cases where a person could be only fantasizing about people of the same sex while being genuinely in love with their opposite sex partner.
1) Mixed orientation relationship. Love can be separate from lust and someone can fall in love with someone they don't have sexual attraction to or aren't orientated to. This means asexuals can fall in love and also means that there can exist couples like the one a friend of mine ended up getting "it's complicated" into where a gay man and a straight woman fell in love and married and honestly do love one another, but both end up needing to get sexual needs met elsewhere (they're both happy, but "it's complicated").
2) Kinsey 5.9. Sometimes called the "I'm gay but with one exception". 99% of the people that turn one on are same sex, but there was that one straight person that turned one on also ended up being the longest monogamous relationship one had. Technically a form of bisexuality, but hey.
3) The transitioning partner exception. One got into a loving homosexual relationship with someone, fell in love with them as a person and they've now figured out that they were the opposite sex in truth and are transitioning to rectify that, but they are still one's love and still does turn one on (especially mentally). So, hey, exception and one still gets to march in the Pride Parade, loved one's arm in hand.
None of these of course applies to Mr. I Ran Screaming into the Closet and Nailed the Door.
Posted by: skeptifem
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December 10, 2009 12:56 PM
god damn it. I can't be the only one sick of hearing how many people would do rachel maddow. It is so not relevant to anything, and it isn't a compliment to be a fucking professional journalist and have people (for or against her) constantly make comments about her appearance or sexual orientation. It just doesn't happen to dudes, and it's bullshit. It doesn't just apply to maddow, but jesus christ. you are all praising her for her work, and yet how sexually useful she is to any given person is somehow an important side note that has to be made over and over and over again. Anyone who wants to check out the hateful shit on youtube will see that it is virutally impossible to find a video of her that doesn't devolve into a discussion of how fuckable/not fuckable/totally dykey maddow is in the comments. This is how she is talked about everywhere. How would you feel if people said crap like that in response to your WORK? And then your supporters put a mini version of it in their comments as well? It would make you feel like you can never just be listened to, you have to be evaluated and rated as a meat envelope constantly. Even when she is a fucking lesbian; a person who could not POSSIBLY make it clearer that they do not want male attention, she is having her prongability commented on by a random assortment of dudes at all times. Do you think that none of us realize that this kind of thinking doesn't end with tv pundits; that it extends to the dudes we all have to be in society with? Only a fool would think every day women are not subject to this kind of attention. I am pretty sure most of you have heard it about women you know, anyway.
Heres a clue: I don't give a shit how many of you would totally prong her if you were given the opportunity; keep it to your god damned selves. its a painful reminder of my default status in society that i don't really need on top of uh, everything else that happens every day. thanks.
Posted by: raven
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December 10, 2009 12:56 PM
I'm sure this guy is not gay like Ted "I'm not really gay", Haggard.
Chances are, he accidently finds himself in gay bars fairly often. There was some "former gay" leader guy in Washington DC who was outed as "not really a gay guy but hanging out in gay bars sort".
One of the more dismal things about the current Death Cults" hate gay campaign. Gay teen agers have higher suicide rates than the general public. Well xian Death Cults, I'm sure they could care less if gays get beaten up, killed, or driven to suicide.
Posted by: Janine, She Wolf Of Pharyngula, OM
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December 10, 2009 1:04 PM
Thank you, skeptifem. I second every thing you said.
Posted by: daveau
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December 10, 2009 1:07 PM
I second skeptifem@108.
Posted by: PZ Myers
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December 10, 2009 1:08 PM
It is weird how many people see Maddow and talk about how they wish they had complementary sexual orientations so they could have sex with her.
Simple test, heterosexual guys: how often, when you see smart, interesting men on television, do you start considering the virtues of homosexuality because it would give you an infinitesimally tiny possibility of using them as a sex toy?
Like, maybe, never?
You will not have sex with the overwhelming majority of human beings on this planet, whether they are male or female, gay or straight. We shouldn't be thinking that way.
Personally, I look at Rachel Maddow and think, "Wow, I'd really like to sit down with her over dinner and have a conversation." And it really doesn't matter what she has under her pants.
Posted by: Cerberus, unnatural product of en-OMnomnom-ification
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December 10, 2009 1:16 PM
108-
Agreed.
Though, she also does practically define dyke chic and I have heard heterosexual men utter the "I'd go gay for Colbert" (Or Olbermann).
But yeah, the singular fixation is odd.
Posted by: Paul W., OM
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December 10, 2009 1:17 PM
skeptifem,
I do see your point, but one of he great advantages of having Rachel Maddow on our side is, sadly, that she's hot and just seems so darned nice in general. She's just so all-around cute lovable, for somebody really really smart who says some very pointed things.
I wish I that it wasn't that way---that a woman less "beautiful" and less nice than Maddow could get a job like that.
But in the meantime I'm glad she's "hot" and has a charming demeanor, so that we can get an out lesbian Rhodes Scholar liberal on the air doing what she does, on her very own show.
Your point is taken---maybe I shouldn't have said such an objectifying thing to make a cheap joke---or maybe I should have clarified why I think it's unfortunately relevant, right there.
Normally I wouldn't have. In this case I thought there was a little bit of leeway because there were also women pointing out her attractiveness, and seriously discussing the content of what she said, son it wasn't just a gang of guys ogling the babe instead of acknowledging her smarts.
I, for one, think that people here have done a reasonably good job of making it clear that what's best about Maddow is not her looks.
The large bulk of my comment was about content, for example---the kind of argument to make against a homophobic shithead like Cohen. Near as I can tell, I was saying exactly the same kind of thing I'd say about a straight white man or a less stereotypically attractive woman who made the arguments she made, and not the ones she didn't.
But I also think you're likely right that we shouldn't get too carried away with the hottie fixation.
Sorry.
Posted by: Josh
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December 10, 2009 1:29 PM
@Cerberus #107:
"This means asexuals can fall in love..." What the hell does it mean to "fall in love" anyway? I mean this as an honest question. Is there any way to define it without being arbitrary and subjective?
@skeptifem #108:
"How would you feel if people said crap like that in response to your WORK?" If someone told me my math was solid and they wanted to put their mouth on me, I'd be honored on both counts... whether the attraction was reciprocated or not.
Posted by: Quinn O
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December 10, 2009 1:35 PM
PZ makes excellent points at 112, but I'm not entirely in agreement with Skeptifem.
I don't think people's openness to changing their sexual orientation here is so much about Maddow's appearance or how "fuckable" she is. It's the way she can take a smarmy waste of skin like Cohen to task, in such a calm, classy, and razor sharp way. *This* is what's so appealing and admirable and sexy about her - and you don't have to swing her way to think so. I love her too.
Posted by: truthspeaker
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December 10, 2009 1:37 PM
I would feel awesome. I would love it if women looked at me as a piece of meat. Seriously. That's why this issue is so hard to understand for a lot of men. You're right, skeptifem, but using the approach of "how would you feel if the situation were reversed?" won't work with most men. I, and I think many other men, would LOVE it if the situation were reversed.
Posted by: Janine, She Wolf Of Pharyngula, OM
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December 10, 2009 1:41 PM
Sorry, Josh. Just because you would not mind being hit on while at work does not take away how tiring it is to hear from guys just how much they would like to hit on some public female figure. Isn't it enough to say that she does her job really well? She she also have to be some public masturbatory aid?
Posted by: Traveler
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December 10, 2009 1:43 PM
Walton @55,
I can't remember ever seeing Olbermann interview someone who didn't agree with him. I often watch his show because I rant at many of the same things he does. But I've often wondered if the lack of any opponents on the show is his choice or due to his potential opponents not wanting to be preached at.
Posted by: Janine, She Wolf Of Pharyngula, OM
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December 10, 2009 1:45 PM
It is "Does she", not "She she".
Posted by: Paul W., OM
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December 10, 2009 1:45 PM
In my particular case, sometimes.
I'm not entirely heterosexual, and can easily imagine being much less so. My wife is completely bi, and we do both say that kind of stuff sometimes while watching TV or listening to a podcast.
(And we both fell in love with Rachel Maddow listening to her on Air America before we knew what she looked like.)
(A long time ago I lived in a "gay" neighborhood and worked for years in a business with a very gay clientele, and I got hit on a fair bit just based on my looks. (Some guys have low standards!) I was generally just flattered, and it mostly made me feel good, but I can easily understand women not liking that, if it's a frequent diversion from content, or if they're the ones conspicuously not being hit on, etc.)
But still, I can't reasonably expect people to know that stuff---I've never said it here before---so I probably shouldn't have even sounded like yet another entirely heterosexual privileged white male objectifying asshole. It creates an uncomfortably sexist environment for some people, whether it's an entirely accurate perception or not.
And I'll cop to being crass and superficial in terms of looks, sometimes. I have in fact remarked that I'd do John Stewart, but haven't said that about Colbert. My standards of looks are higher for men than for women, heteronormative pig that I am.
Oh, and I've wanted to have Sastra's rhetorical babies since before I realized she was female, and long before I had an idea what she looked like. (Just thought I'd throw that in.)
Posted by: Josh
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December 10, 2009 1:46 PM
Yes, Janine. I'm sure it is tiresome. But it was okay for the women to say these things? I think the first two comments of that nature were from women. This, of course, doesn't make it right, but it does make it a bit unfair that males are being singled out.
Posted by: Cerberus, unnatural product of en-OMnomnom-ification
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December 10, 2009 1:56 PM
Josh-
Intriguing question, especially seeing how if there is one aspect of humanity that is the most subjective it is most definitely love. On its definition as a short, difficult. There is a reason books, plays, and long poems are written on the subject, it's a hard one to pin down.
Hmm, the really hard part is the non-subjective. Using a subjective example, I could outline the existence of a distinct love emotion to that of lust in the examples of a romantic sexual partner and a sexual partner you have no emotional romantic ties to. Many sexuals have had the latter subjective experience and as such, the concept of the opposite occurring (love without lust) can be visualized. As such, please forgive me if I end up ill-equipped to handle your request, but I'll give it a shot, which will very likely be filled with holes (as what I am describing is in essence a subjective emotional construct of the human mind).
Love seems to be an emotional construct of the complex way in which the human mind may process it's interaction with another human being. It is similar to its cousin lust in that it's existence can originate without obvious origin or cause (aka it's seemingly arbitrary on the user end).
It's manifestations seem to be a strong emotional connection with another person that is typically positive (though negative feelings can be amplified under the influence of this emotion). It can affect other mental processes. It can cause anxiety with prolonged distance (mileage may vary), provide stress relief with contact (mileage may vary), and provide an emotional sense of "being home" when one is with the person (mileage may vary). One of the few constant things seems to be the development of a new type of kinship with the person one has "fallen in love with". One treats them very similar as to one's family, but a sort of chosen family that may be stronger than actual family ties (especially if one's biological family sucks) and definitely stronger than friendship ties (which can form similar kinship or tribal cohesiveness and protectiveness).
There can also be a romantic element (and often is), which means an enjoyment of shared body space and a development of strong trust and safety in regards to area of perceived fragility or vulnerability. The period of time such feelings last can vary as can the intensity of them, but it can be hard to measure as feelings can feel amplified by lust and NRE (which is the boost a sexual feels when they are just starting to be intimate with a new partner).
As noted, it can mix with lust and be hard to extrapolate as its own emotional identity and it can mix with friendship and can be hard to extrapolate there (many have the subjective emotional experience of having strong emotional kinship to a friend similar, but slightly different to how they feel about a loved partner).
The romantic aspect is seemingly a good line to separate love from lust and from friendship, but given how much of romance is sexual or at least contact dependent, I feel it's not really the core of love as an emotional entity.
In short, I babble, because love is hard as is falling in love. One may know it when one experiences it and one can infer its separate existence through the existence of romantic asexuals and loveless sexual encounters, but again, there's a reason why poets and playwrights and novelists spend many many pages trying to capture this emotion. I myself have spent an entire play trying to define it (albeit far more subjectively than I attempted to do here).
In much shorter, love is hard to summarize.
Posted by: Janine, She Wolf Of Pharyngula, OM
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December 10, 2009 1:58 PM
Josh, let's just say I was not very happy with those comments either.
Do I find Rachel Maddow attractive? Yes. But that is the nature of television, one does not find many unattractive people with shows. But that has nothing to do with how she runs her show. And I have liked her since she was the regular sub for Keith Obermann.
But it is a regular happening, when ever a woman is a topic of discussion, invariably, the silly fanboys are going to start going off about how fuckable she is. And like I said before, your desires about being treated in such a away has nothing to do with this.
Posted by: Zernk
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December 10, 2009 2:02 PM
I read a great interview with Rachel where she said how uncomfortable she was being all girlied up for going on the air. I think all these wanna-prongers are attracted to what the network wants to sell instead of who she really is. But that's OK. We all (even us guys) dress up for all y'all's pleasure. It helps us procreate (or at least fool ourselves into thinking we are).
Posted by: Becca the Over Socialized
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December 10, 2009 2:03 PM
I think the difference here is that most men aren't used to being defined by their looks, so any expression of sexual interest that way is a bonus. Most women are defined by their looks (good or bad) so having someone say that they'd like to hit on you (or seduce you) is a replacement for appreciation of their brains and/or personality.
Posted by: destlund
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December 10, 2009 2:03 PM
I share your concern. It's extremely hypocritical when the right wing tries to ignore the facts of hate crimes when legislation is being considered, then turns around and flippantly uses the term to describe any sort of slight that involves personal prejudice. In both cases they're attempting to delegitimize the meaning of the phrase, but I can't help believe they should be made to think about what it's like to be dragged behind a truck for 50 miles or beaten to death and tied to a fence for the color of their skin or sexual orientation.
And PZ, hear, hear! I love Rachel Maddow for her ability to think on her feet, her candor, and her unflappable good manners in the face of overwhelming stupidity, sheer deceptiveness, or even just plain evil. I think she's a lovely woman, and I would love to spend time with her, but I'm not "flipping" for her, nor would I ever expect her to do so for me. Neither of us is capable, and that's the end of it.
Posted by: Sarah from Chicago
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December 10, 2009 2:08 PM
I'm with skeptifem and PZ on this one.
As a lesbian woman, I'm one of the few here that is in Ms. Maddow's 'target demographic'.
And you know what? It's doesn't matter a shite.
Look, women are constantly being told in our society that no matter how awesome we are, no matter how competent we are, no matter how intelligent, strong, resilient, etc we are, that the ultimate judge of our worth is how fuckable we are.
And while yes, so many here are saying they want to fuck Rachel Maddow because of how intelligent, poised, assertive, awesome she is ... it still means that the yardstick that you're using to measure that intelligence, poise, assertiveness, awesomeness, etc of a woman is HOW FUCKABLE SHE IS.
Like it or not, the majority of people here DON'T think the same about male presenters they admire. The straight men don't think that they wish they could change their orientations, or the orientations of the guy they admire. And similar can be said about the other orientations and genders of people here.
This is an example of how such is heterosexist and homophobic in our society. And what we refer to the 'male gaze' ... ie the worth of a woman is determined principally by how sexually available a woman is to some heterosexual man.
And does anyone else find it ironic that in a thread speaking about the stupidity and insanity of the ex-gay movement is in general, and one ex-gay numbnut in particular, the response from so many men here is expressing their approval by saying they wish they could have sex with her?
I mean, this is leaving aside the fact that she has a long-term committed life-partner.
I really wish this weren't so stunningly predictable, is all.
Posted by: Josh
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December 10, 2009 2:08 PM
@Janine #124:
"And like I said before, your desires about being treated in such a away has nothing to do with this."
But I was responding to the question:
"How would you feel if people said crap like that in response to your WORK?" from #108.
Posted by: Josh
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December 10, 2009 2:12 PM
Sarah:
You say, "And while yes, so many here are saying they want to fuck Rachel Maddow because of how intelligent, poised, assertive, awesome she is ... it still means that the yardstick that you're using to measure that intelligence, poise, assertiveness, awesomeness, etc of a woman is HOW FUCKABLE SHE IS."
You've got it backwards. They are implying that the metric for 'how fuckable she is' is how intelligent...
Huge difference.
Posted by: Paul W., OM
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December 10, 2009 2:14 PM
Fangirls started it, in this case, as Josh@122 pointed out.
Was that OK? I sorta think it was, and sorta think it wasn't, myself.
Sorta was, in the way black people can use the N word, but white people can't. (There really is a very good reason for that.)
Sorta wasn't, because whether it's sexist or not, it's objectifying, and sort-of inviting the fanboys to chime in, as I did.
I think you need to separate out the issue of how much objectifying women is a bad thing per se, even coming from women, from the issue of how out of line the guys here were for chiming in when two women started down that path.
Posted by: Sarah from Chicago
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December 10, 2009 2:23 PM
Josh @130 -
No, I don't.
They are expressing their value of her intelligence in terms of them wanting to fuck her; hence, the scale of worth of her intelligence is fuckability.
Not very intelligent; not very fuckable, very intelligent; very fuckable.
Hence, the measure is how fuckable she is.
Posted by: Paul W., OM
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December 10, 2009 2:28 PM
Josh and Sarah,
You're both right.
Josh is right that there's a difference between pointing out that Maddow's mind is what makes her very specially attractive.
Sarah's right that it's still somewhat objectifying, because it's obviously not independent of her being physically a hottie in the usual heteronormative objectifying way.
People here (women and men) would be way less likely to joke about seducing her if she were either of average looks or of average smarts.
Posted by: llewelly
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December 10, 2009 2:35 PM
Question. What do you call someone who has sex with doors?Posted by: Paul W., OM
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December 10, 2009 2:38 PM
This is too funny.
I just noticed that it was clearly PZ who started the sexist objectification of Maddow in this thread.
In the original post.
In the opening sentence!
When was the last time he described Olbermann or Colbert or even the lovely and talented Jon Stewart as fabulous?
PZ, you are a heteronormative sexist pig.
(I'm just a tiny bit serious there. I actually do think you started it, and several of us went down the slippery slope, not that it gets any of us off the hook, exactly.)
Posted by: Josh
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December 10, 2009 2:39 PM
Sarah,
The measurement being taken is 'how fuckable she is.' The yardstick, that which is used to measure her fuckability, is her intelligence, poise, etc. You had it backwards.
Reading what I just typed, I realized how ridiculous this has become. Still amusing though.
Posted by: Sarah from Chicago
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December 10, 2009 2:42 PM
Josh -
For crying out loud ... the worth of her intelligence is being expressed in how much someone wants to fuck her! I don't have this backwards!
The yardstick, hence, is her fuckability.
I can't believe this is this hard for you to grasp. Get a bloody grip.
Posted by: AdamK
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December 10, 2009 2:44 PM
Maddow looks like Athena to my eyes.
I don't want to have sex with her.
Would you love it if MEN looked at you as a piece of meat? That's the thought experiment that actually "reverses the situation." Or is that "hard to understand"?
Posted by: Newfie
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December 10, 2009 2:46 PM
http://s.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/terminal01/2009/12/3/16/enhanced-buzz-31899-1259875741-17.jpg
Posted by: Josh
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December 10, 2009 2:49 PM
jesus there-is-no-god-damned christ! I would think fellow skeptics would have been trained in logic.
Posted by: Sarah from Chicago
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December 10, 2009 2:52 PM
Actually, I am, Josh, but hey, rave away ... and please do continue defending the objectification of Ms Maddow, it is so refreshingly different. Not.
Posted by: Quinn O
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December 10, 2009 2:55 PM
To a certain degree, I think we all notice the attractiveness of others, and we all like to think that we're attractive.
I find it kind of reassuring to hear that people can find non-physical things, like intelligence and savvy, sexy. This means that it's possible to be at least somewhat sexy right up until senility sets in, despite the fact that our skins and soft appendages get progressively closer to the floor after age 30.
Posted by: Carlie of the lacy, gently wafting adjectives
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December 10, 2009 3:05 PM
***Waves madly with glee at Sarah from Chicago*****
(Yea Sarah! I haven't seen you around blogs lately, but I may just not be on the right ones to see you)
Josh, the point isn't what makes her fuckable, it's that her fuckability is entirely irrelevant to what she's talking about, talking about her performance on the show, and is what's almost always used as the main descriptor of women without regard to any other characteristics. It has nothing to do with which part is the yardstick and which one is the measure, it's that fuckability shouldn't be on either one.
Posted by: Walton, Marquis of Carabas
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December 10, 2009 3:07 PM
Hang on a minute.
Men (at least on this blog) do, sometimes, get exactly the same kind of attention. I distinctly remember a thread in which Richard Dawkins was widely described as "hot", for instance. And in one of the incarnations of the Endless Thread, a number of female commenters were joking about how they'd like to see nude photos of David Marjanović. The whole "intelligence is sexy" thing seems to be a long-running Pharyngula in-joke; but it's applied to men, in my experience, just as much as to women.
I honestly don't think that expression of sexual interest in Maddow is intrinsically sexist here. There's a real difference between "X is a good journalist AND she's hot" and "X is a good journalist BECAUSE she's hot". The latter is inherently objectifying, the former is not. My respect for Maddow (or any other woman in public life) as a professional is unaffected by what she looks like. But if some people also happen to be sexually interested in her, I see nothing automatically wrong with that.
Posted by: Draken
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December 10, 2009 3:09 PM
#70, American journalists seem fixated with the idea that both sides need to be given the same respect and treatment no matter what.
Not those on Fox, they aren't. (Arguably, they're not journalists).
Posted by: Bobber
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December 10, 2009 3:10 PM
I made a comment above regarding my admiration for Rachel Maddow's talents as a journalist and an interviewer.
Assuming for a moment that I find Rachel Maddow attractive, I wouldn't find it necessary to comment upon it, for the following reasons:
(a) we're discussing Rachel's ability to completely shred an idiot during an interview, which has zero to do with how "fuckable" she is, and has no relevance;
(b) I don't think for a second that Rachel herself would be flattered by my mentioning how her words/image might cause a surge to my loins, and
(c) why should anyone else give a damn who or what it is that I find attractive?
Also, isn't it just good manners not to say to someone, "You just made a great point about that issue - and by the way, I have an erection while I'm telling you this"?
Posted by: Walton, Marquis of Carabas
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December 10, 2009 3:14 PM
Often, yes. But not on Pharyngula, where there is far more sensitivity to gender issues than is typically found among the general population.
In my first comment on this thread (#55), I praised Maddow's professionalism as an interviewer. At no point did I comment on her "fuckability", nor was I inclined to. Everything in my comment, if the gender pronouns were changed, could be applied equally to a man with the same qualities doing the same job; I did not evaluate her differently because she is a woman. This doesn't mean that I see anything wrong with other commenters expressing that they find her attractive. It is a completely separate issue from whether she is a good journalist; and it is possible to have, and to express, opinions on both issues, without one being contingent on the other.
Posted by: Carlie of the lacy, gently wafting adjectives
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December 10, 2009 3:17 PM
...and I just realized Sarah has no idea who I am, because everywhere else I'm thinking about having seen her comment I have a different username. So I'll just slink away in embarrassment now.
Posted by: Rev. BigDumbChimp
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December 10, 2009 3:21 PM
Is everyone missing the main point? How unfuckable Cohen is?
/slinks away
Posted by: Paul W., OM
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December 10, 2009 3:29 PM
Walton,
Yes. I seem to recall MAJeff saying that sort of thing from time to time, and nobody objecting. (Pardon me if that's a misattribution...)
Not that they necessarily should get exactly the same kind of attention. Given the asymmetry between male and female in our culture, and the other asymmetry between gay and straight, arguably it's like the N word in two ways. It's not as bad to talk about a man being "hot" as a woman. Women are already faced with plenty of objectification.
It's also not as bad for a gay man to do it as for a straight woman to do it, because we do hear plenty about Brad Pitt or whoever from a fair number of straight women---yes, we get it, you think he's sexy!---and less often from gay men, who in many contexts are basically not allowed to express their sexuality the way straight people can.
Pharyngula is a safe space for that kind of expression---nobody is going to go "ICK! MEN HAVING SEX WITH EACH OTHER!" or if they do, they'll get ridiculed and MAJeff's (or whoever's) right to express their feelings will be validated.
Yes. And that's significant. It seems to be acceptable around here to express sexuality, and to express admiration for people's minds by saying they're sexy---sometimes, by some people. There's apparently no blanket rule against sexually objectifying people.
We've had a some number of women---mostly straight, I think---make a running joke of their being "sluts" and joking about doing people, and stuff like that.
I wonder about that. I have no idea of the relative frequencies. It does seem clear that gay men sexually objectifying straight men happens here disproportionately often, relative to the proportion of gay men in the general population---and I think that's as it should be.
It's good that Pharyngula is a safe place for people to express their non-heteronormatively-standard sexuality, but it would get really fucking old if all the straight white men did the same thing about women all the time. We can get that sort of thing anywhere, it's boring, and it reinforces an imbalance in our society rather than counteracting it.
Posted by: Bill Dauphin, avec fromage
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December 10, 2009 3:30 PM
skeptifem (@108) and seconders (et seq.):
As one of the guilty parties, I find myself struggling to think of some way to say "I'm really sorry" and "lighten up," simultaneously, without sounding like a dick. Because I mean both sincerely.
On the one hand, I get it: She's a serious person, doing a serious job, confronting serious issues, and it's not a fucking peep show!! I get it. It's easy to fall into what seems like harmless cheekiness without thinking about it; I know I should be more mindful of the potential affects of what I say casually.
On the other hand... I really think what's going on here is something quite different from the typical run of talk-to-my-face-not-to-my-tits male sexism that we've discussed here before (and not just because it's both men and women lusting after Rachel): I think what you're really seeing is people declaring themselves as adoring fans... and it's not really that strange that there should be a sexual component to adoration, even if it's only rhetorical.
Rachel does something similar all the time1 (albeit not in quite so explicitly sexual terms, because she is, by her own description, a little bit prudish), frequently talking about having "crushes" on people who've done or said something awesome, or jokingly referring to men in stories she covers as her "boyfriend."
Personally, I respect her combination of intellect, insight, and compassion more than that of almost anyone in the world, and definitively more than anyone in her line of work. And... I confess I think she's hot. In all likelihood, that latter perception is largely due to the former; certainly the latter is not an obstacle to, or distraction from, the former.
So what I think is going on is not that people are paying attention to her looks and therefore ignoring or downrating everything else that makes her wonderful. Instead, I think folks are expressing sexual attraction as a metaphor for everything else that makes her wonderful2.
Then, too, the specific story that's the occasion for us talking about her in the first place is all about the nature of sexual attraction. I think people have been at least in part riffing on Cohen's obnoxious notions of the malleability of attraction; certainly that's part of what was in my mind when I made my offending comment.
Finally, I think there's just inevitably going to some attention paid to the sex appeal (or lack thereof) of public figures, whether or not their fame has any obvious connection to sexuality. It's true that it's more obviously an issue with prominent women — owing, no doubt, to the cosmic-background-radiation-like ubiquity of sexism in our society — but it's not true that prominent men are never judged according to their looks, or according to hotness based on factors other than looks. We don't just switch off our sexual nature when "serious" topics are on the table, and I'm not sure we should necessarily try to.
Obliquely relevant to this conversation, Susie Bright had an interesting take on the sex appeal of public figures and a recent edition of her In Bed podcast, in which she confesses to having had a major girl-crush on Sarah Palin (without, mind you, ever agreeing with a single thing SP stands for)... and then explains why and how her infatuation dissipated.
PZ says...
...and I can only answer, "me, too!" Among people I don't actually know, she's probably the one I'd most like to have dinner and conversation with (well, maybe she's second, after Obama). But thinking back, I recall that this desire for intellectual company is also how I felt when I met my wife, and most of my girlfriends before her, too. In my experience, intellectual respect and sexual attraction3 are not inevitably mutually contradictory... and the are frequently complementary, if not actually mutually causative. But maybe that's just me being naive and romantic?
Probably I should just shut up and hope my original comment would be forgotten. But, sadly, shutting up doesn't seem to be my MO, so I'm going to close my eyes and hit Submit now. Please don't hurt me too much.
1 While I rarely watch her MSNBC show, I've listened to essentially her entire body of work on Air America radio, which these days includes most of the key audio from the TV show... so I feel comfortable asserting my familiarity with her MO.
2 I'm sure that twenty-something years ago, when I was teaching Creative Writing to college freshmen, I must have known the proper term for figurative language that is simultaneously metaphorically and literally true... but it slips my mind at the moment.
3 Note that I do not assume "sexual attraction" implies any particular behavior. For me, thinking — or even saying out loud — that someone is sexy doesn't mean I'm going to pursue her, or flirt with her, or cast her in some sort of private mental pornography; it only means I've taken notice of one of the many different aspects of her personhood.
Posted by: Sarah from Chicago
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December 10, 2009 3:31 PM
lol Carlie ... I assume you know me tho :)
I haven't been around much, so not, you're not missing where I have been posting ... have moved back home to New Zealand, stopped with being an academic/lecturer/etc, and am moving into political policy analysis/advising work.
It's all very strange after so many years living in the US, not to mention my American accent keeps having me picked as not completely kiwi anymore "so where are you from" ... "er, here". Not to mention the reverse culture-shock, which is throwing me for a loop.
Course, it's almost rather strange that summer just started for me, and it's the holidays ...
But should stop here in order to not thread derail more than I am :)
Posted by: destlund
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December 10, 2009 3:50 PM
Thread's dead, Sarah. Thanks a lot. Oh and it's not a motorcycle; it's a chopper. (kidding!)
Posted by: SaintStephen
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December 10, 2009 3:51 PM
Wow. Rachel is formidable, indeed. Not to be sexist, but YOU GO, GIRL.
The Liberal Lioness? I'm just awestruck right now.
I don't think I've ever seen Billow Reilly ask his guest if they feel they've been "treated fairly" in his pig sty. Bravo Rachel!
Posted by: Sarah T
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December 10, 2009 3:54 PM
Wow, I did not mean to start this kind of shit storm!
Back in Comment #10 when I said "If I could chose to be gay, I would try to seduce Rachel Maddow"
What I meant was that I was so impressed with her that I would love to have her as a permanent, intimate fixture in my life. Not intimate as in fuckable, but as in emotionally close because she is so clearly someone that you would want on your side.
The fact that I'm straight (and a woman) shows that the whole point is that I'm NOT sexually attracted to her. but mentally. I think confirms what Josh is saying in comment 130 with "They are implying that the metric for 'how fuckable she is' is how intelligent... "
I think what people have been trying to convey on this site is that they think she is fabulous. Saying I wanted to seduce her is just a short hand and one that I thought most readers would interpret as "respect and think is intelligent and fierce" rather that "super do-able".
Posted by: Anubis Bloodsin the third
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December 10, 2009 3:56 PM
"Dick" is as gay as a parade...but he is severely conflicted and a epic disgrace to Bi, hetero and ghey alike.
He is not as straight as he boasts, and I do not mean just sexual orientation, look at the dude he exudes counterfeit politeness and grace, and fails miserably to convince, he is a fake halfwit but a very dangerous one.
Even ter ghays would not want the jerk-off mingling with them, ugly human that he is through and through.
One can only wonder what the story really is behind the 'buy a bride' lookalike in that photo of claimed wife.
That would be no surprise 'no woman of free will' and all that.
He refuses to admit to stoking genocide against Homosexuals and he is hiding behind a dubious, apparently non sexual, according to him in that clip, relationship to promote same.
De dude is a sleazeball and uses his anti-gheydom rhetoric to punish his own obvious self loathing.
Anyone that thought acted and promoted such crass bollocks would be justified in loathing himself....it is the only thing genuine about him.
No evolution there just a cess pit of right wing propaganda and greed for greed sake.
He presumably started to want to curry favour with the religious right wing in the US, got himself in a spot of bother though, ignorance believes his flatulent incontinence.
Now it is getting out of hand.
The fuckhead has single handedly started a pogrom against gays in another country, and has given a few bitter ass wipes in the US pause for thought about a similar campaign...it will not be forgotten.
Posted by: Sarah from Chicago
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December 10, 2009 3:58 PM
lol destlund ;P
Posted by: daveau
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December 10, 2009 4:11 PM
Bill Dauphin, et al.
I guess I just don't get it, really. I don't see how "I'd do her/him" relevantly enters into any discussion other than one about who you'd do or not. It does seem to be a part of human nature to do that though. People are "totally in love with" a celebrity's public persona and really know nothing about that person. And it's certainly not reciprocated, even assuming a gender/proclivity match. Objectification is especially bad in Rachel's case because she doesn't seem to be remotely interested in trading on her looks as some do. (Thought I was going to say something else, didn't ya?) It was pretty funny, though, whoever said that they would get a sex change so they could be a lesbian.
Posted by: Justin
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December 10, 2009 4:20 PM
Bill @ 151:
I don't think that's possible as you can't truly be sorry AND push responsibility for a person's offence back on to them by demanding they "lighten up".
That's awesome, and I'm glad. However, women, last I checked are not psychic and can't tell your intentions when you say that they're hot when discussing their professional merits. It would be better if you refrained from discussing it altogether to avoid awkward clarifications like the one I'm responding to!
I think it's fine if you think it (for the right reasons), but really, why should you let everyone else know that you think a particular professional is hot or not? It's not really relevant to the discussion, leaving aside all the inherent sexism that women face on a disproportional scale to men.
Posted by: Paul W., OM
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December 10, 2009 4:23 PM
I think Bill hit the nail on the head in terms of people using the idea sexual hotness largely as a way of expressing adoration, in much the same way that Maddow herself talks about "crushes" on people she admires.
There is a slippery slope from there.
Sarah T:
Well you blew it. :-)
I think that was a pretty good and clear version of what Bill was talking about.
You were saying that Maddow is so intensely generally cool that it would overcome your normally fixed preference (heterosexuality) in that regard.
My followup, where I quoted you and basically said "me too" was pretty lame---a (mostly) straight man saying he'd try to seduce a physically attractive woman just isn't interesting in that way. Lots of straight men would try to seduce her, so so what? It doesn't convey the same overall adoration, and could just mean "what a hottie!"
My bad. I was just trying to play along with the sort-of-joke and express my general admiration, and segue to my real subject, but I made a not-funny sort-of-joke.
I don't mostly mean my sort-of-joke was "not funny" in the sense of being in poor taste, I mostly mean it was uninteresting and therefore not funny; jokes have to have a surprise in them, and there's no surprise there, as there was in what you said.
It just doesn't convey any surprising intensity of general adoration for a straight guy to say he'd try to seduce a physically attractive woman! (Duh, dude!)
In my own defense, I was dumb one-line throwaway and I proceeded to do what I really meant to do---I gave my opinions on her arguments, both pluses and minuses.
Nobody seems to care about that part, which was almost all of what I posted in two posts.
Maybe if I was a hottie people would pay attention. :-)
Posted by: Bill Dauphin, avec fromage
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December 10, 2009 4:40 PM
Arrgh... I dithered over writing my comment (@151) so long that the whole conversation had essentially already been had before I posted. Ahh, 'twas ever thus... :^(
Sarah (@128):
Of course it was ironic... but why do you assume the irony was unintentional. You may not think it was funny, but make room for the possiblity that people were, at least in part, trying to joke around about this.
Paul W. (@133):
But that's just the thing: Despite my earlier comments about her appeal, I'm not at all convinced she is "physically a hottie in the usual heteronormative objectifying way." She regularly describes herself as "mannish-looking," and while I think that's a somewhat harsh self-appraisal, it's certainly true that she's not — in terms of hair, face, figure, makeup, or dress — the sort of generic sexual fantasy object that men regularly get slapped around for desiring.
It's hard to know for sure (because I was already a fan of her radio work long before I ever saw a picture of her), but I think if I'd been shown her picture before I knew who she was and asked to comment on her looks, I would've said she was pleasant looking... maybe even "cute"... but I doubt I'd have called her a hottie or joked about wanting to seduce her.
I know the smart-is-sexy meme can seem like a cheap excuse in conversations like this, but in this case I think it really is true that it's everything else wonderful about her (not just her intelligence, though that's admittedly most of it) that makes Maddow sexy to my, and truly not the other way 'round.
Carlie:
Yeah, you're probably right... but I ain't waitin' underwater for humans to stop looking at the world in terms of our appetites. I grok that this hyperattentiveness to sexuality would be far less problematic if it weren't for the predicate sexism of our society. I think we're more likely to have success at trying to get people to be more equitable than we are at getting people to be less horny... though I confess I don't have any foolproof plan for either.
FWIW, by the way, fuckability implies something quite a bit different than what I mean when I comment that someone is sexy. Not everyone who notices sexiness is a salivating beast. Jus' sayin'....
Posted by: Paul W., OM
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December 10, 2009 4:43 PM
Justin,
Lighten up.
I think Bill explained himself pretty well.
Yes, it is. I think Bill is right about why that sort of thing is done pretty often around here---often by women or gay men---and why it's usually considered acceptable.
Maybe it isn't or shouldn't be acceptable coming from a straight man praising a gay woman, but please grant his point about how people sometimes try to express general admiration metaphorically or partly-metaphorically by calling someone hot.
Do you object if a woman calls, say, Dawkins hot, amidst praising his intellect and rhetorical vigor, because it's simply irrelevant?
I doubt it. I suspect that in that case you'd recognize that the woman was trying to express strong overall admiration, not just purely physical attraction.
Sometimes guys around here say they "have a man crush on" somebody. (I learned that phrase from seeing that here, several times, and had to look it up to make sure I understood it.)
That's the same idea, but clearer---you're expressing the intensity of your admiration for somebody (like a romantic crush) while saying that it's not actually romantic or sexual.
I think that in the right context, where people are unlikely to take it wrong, it is also okay to say that you have an actual crush on somebody, expressing mostly general admiration, especially for someone's intellect, but mixed with a physical sexual attractiveness component as well.
But for a man to say that about a beautiful woman is problematic---not because it's not actually a reasonable sentiment, but because it's an ambiguous thing to say that could just be mostly sexual admiration, and it reinforces the objectification of women, which there's too much of.
I don't think that you can leave that aside. As Bill explained, it makes sense to express general admiration as something akin to, or even mixed with, romantic/sexual adoration.
What makes it a bad idea in many contexts is precisely that in our society it's hard to distinguish from simple sexual objectification, and it's not as clear or interesting as when it's about someone of your not-preferred sex, and it reinforces our tendency to objectify women in general.
Posted by: Uncle Glenny
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December 10, 2009 4:45 PM
MrKafka sez:
I just want to point out that Cohen's wife is Korean, not Thai. It was a marriage arranged by Sun Myung Moon.
AHA! I was wondering if that was him. Very early 1990s a group of us from Queer Nation/Boston heckled an appearance of him at Boston University. It was ... depressing, all those earnest young college students, looking for some "hope"...
Posted by: Justin
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December 10, 2009 4:55 PM
Paul @ 162:
No.
I think he did too. However, how often does one in real life have time for long winded explanations for why they said or did a certain thing?
I wouldn't say it's acceptable per se, but it's less frowned upon precisely because it's a strike against the institutional sexism that I mentioned at the end of my last post.
Sure, people do it, but does that make it right?
I usually let it slide, again because it's a strike against institutional sexism, but that doesn't mean I cheer for it either. I usually just ignore it. I understand however that if I was a woman and I received comments like that every single day, I would be a bit annoyed.
The difference here is that the preclusion to sexual attraction is RIGHT THERE IN THE DEFINITION OF THE TERM. If however, "man crush" was sexually ambiguous, I don't think people would be using it that often.
In the right context certainly. How do you know what the right context is? Define the proper circumstances that allow such comments to be acceptable.
If we're not leaving institutional sexism aside, then you can clearly see how a man referring to a woman in that context while discussing her professional performance is sexist; it's degrading her to merely a thing that provides you pleasure, as opposed to an actual person who has done a great job.
Exactly, and since people can't tell your intentions without you spelling them out (leaving aside the possibility of insincerity), it would be best if you refrained from such comments for the most part.
Posted by: RickR
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December 10, 2009 5:28 PM
This Cohen douchebag is just doing to gays what religion does to the populace in general: convince them they're cut (original sin) and that only their religion has the bandaid (credit to Sastra for this observation).
Convince gays they're wrong to be who they are (sell them your hate) and then offer them a useless "bandaid" that they never needed in the first place, and that is only going to exacerbate their misery further.
Cohen pretty much defines the term "shitbag".
Posted by: Josh
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December 10, 2009 5:49 PM
@Carlie #143:
"It has nothing to do with which part is the yardstick and which one is the measure, it's that fuckability shouldn't be on either one."
'Which one is the measure' has everything to do with it. I was attacking the LOGICAL CONSTRUCTION as false. Refer to #130. I don't give two shits about Maddow's 'fuckability.' I think it is irrelevant to the original discussion here. HOWEVER, it was a constituent element of a statement made earlier by someone else. I believe that statement to be illogical. I said so. That is what skeptics do.
Posted by: Seifer
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December 10, 2009 6:57 PM
I agree with Justin, but with one distinction. If you are discussing someone in a professional sense, their "hotness" or "fuckibility" should be left out of the discussion... unless their "hotness" or "fuckability" is a logical prerequisite for their job (e.g. a stripper or porn star).
However, if one is generally discussing their opinion of someone, it is an unreasonable expectation to say that commentary on their perceived physical appearance should be faux pas.
Posted by: Pygmy Loris
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December 10, 2009 7:26 PM
skeptifem,
My love for Rachel Maddow is not about sex, but rather because I find her to be an utterly brilliant, progressive person. She seems to be exactly the kind of person I would like to have a long term relationship with. Unfortunately, for me, there are several barriers to a relationship with her. One, she's already in a relationship. Two, I'm straight. Three, and most significantly, she's a famous journalist, and I have no chance of ever even meeting her.
I do, however, understand your objection, and you are spot on in saying that her femaleness is probably the root cause of the "I wish I could date her" comments. Just for the record, I say similar things about Keith Olbermann, Al Gore, and Al Franken all the time. These are a few of my political crushes.
Posted by: David Marjanović
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December 10, 2009 7:36 PM
Just watched the whole thing. Cohen smiles the whole sixteen minutes through. That must hurt.
I didn't notice any spectacular take-down, though. It was good, but... that's what a journalist doing her job should look like, and I think I've seen that kind of thing before. Is that my sheltered life showing? Anyway, I agree with comments 99 (except the first line) and 102.
<headdesk>
<headdesk>
<headdesk>
Yeah. What's up with you people? Do you confuse everything you like with sexiness? Like... food? Sunshine? Clean air? Er... Mozart's 40th symphony? I don't get it.
Also, comment 146.
It can fairly easily be separated from sexual attraction, if that's what you mean. It doesn't happen often, but eight-year-olds (unless aromantic, see below) are capable of falling in love without any hint of sexuality – even though it's AFAIK always with the gender they'll later develop sexual attraction to.
Or won't. There are asexuals who are not aromantic – heteroromantic, homoromantic, and biromantic ones.
BTW, beauty and sexiness aren't the same thing either, even though they're closer.
It would creep me out, and I'd try very hard to never be seen (literally seen) by that person again.
Stop pretending that it's an objective fact that she's beautiful. She's not. :-|
That seems to be mostly to creep out certain trolls. As in "I'm whatever threatens you".
And then there's the reference to "Jane, you ignorant slut!" which has made that word come up in contexts where it would otherwise make no sense whatsoever.
Posted by: Paul W., OM
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December 10, 2009 8:15 PM
Gosh, I dunno. Of all the many and varied things I like, the ones I'm sexually attracted to are disproportionately animate, specifically mammals, and... lemme think... humans. Yep. Pretty much all humans.
But maybe that's just me.
Posted by: Paul W., OM
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December 10, 2009 8:23 PM
We've had a some number of women---mostly straight, I think---make a running joke of their being "sluts" and joking about doing people, and stuff like that. That seems to be mostly to creep out certain trolls. As in "I'm whatever threatens you".Hmmm... usually I don't pay much attention to that kind of banter, but it seems to me that at least a few times I've noticed it being a lot closer to the current kind of issue than that.
In particular, people talking about how they find brainy and/or science geeky people sexy, joking about how they find a certain type sexually irresistable, and so on.
I'm pretty sure sometimes that's been more of a yay-for-us-geeks kind of thing that a freak-out-the-trolls kind of thing.
Posted by: Pyroclasm
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December 10, 2009 8:23 PM
I've got to wonder; why is it always gay or straight with these people? Why no love for the bisexuals?
Posted by: Paul W., OM
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December 10, 2009 8:26 PM
damn blockquote fail. Sorry. 1st sentence of my last comment was me, rest of the 1st para was David, and the rest was me.
Posted by: Bill Dauphin, avec fromage
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December 10, 2009 8:34 PM
David:
You say that like it's a bad thing! What, clean air doesn't make you hot? I know sunshine, almost all the time, gets me high.
;^)
Pygmy Loris:
Ah, jeez! For some reason, the rhythm of that sentence reminded me of "My Favorite Things" from The Sound of Music, and now I can't stop trying to write the parody version in my head:
Rachel in glasses,
And Al Gore talks climate.
Franken's not joking,
He's got his assignment.
Olbermann slashes
Through Fox News reports;
These are just some
Of my fav'rite retorts!
ummm... OK... I'll stop now; sorry....
PS: A straight man who knows show tunes: Another stereotype shattered!
Posted by: Scyldemort
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December 10, 2009 9:45 PM
[quote]I've got to wonder; why is it always gay or straight with these people? Why no love for the bisexuals?[/quote]
Fie! Fie I say! Everyone knows that there's no such thing as bisexuals! They're all either heterosexual and in denial, or homosexual and in denial! ... Wait, what? Kinsey Scale? What's that? Can you eat it? ;P
Posted by: Aratina Cage
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December 10, 2009 10:37 PM
Newfie #139, that photo rocks! Why are so many people gullible enough to eat a steaming pile of hypocrisy?
Posted by: Mike Crichton
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December 10, 2009 11:01 PM
I'm not familiar with the schmuck in question's work, but unless he's actually advocated imprisoning and executing gays, I don't think it's fair to blame any part of the Uganda situation on him, any more than it is for the creationists to blame the Holocaust on Darwin. Criticize the idiot for his own actions, not those of other idiots who may or may not be inspired by him.
Posted by: destlund
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December 10, 2009 11:03 PM
Scyldemort,
There is no such thing as bisexual Erasure. Those guys are totally gay.
Posted by: destlund
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December 10, 2009 11:14 PM
Mike Crichton,
She's not holding him personally responsible for what's going on in Uganda exactly, she's taking him to task for publishing pseudoscience under discredited credentials and pointing out the harm that such behavior can (and here has) cause(d).
Posted by: https://me.yahoo.com/a/cttINywmxMR7sgbiHm42pVLDqQ--#2abe1
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December 11, 2009 4:26 AM
Great skewering.
RM: Paul Cameron? Seriously?
RC: Yeah, my bad. I'm taking that out.
RM: Race?? WTF??
RC: Uh...I didn't write that?
RM: So, still loving men?
RC: Technically...no...heh...ahem...nonsequitor.org!
RM: They're going to kill people.
RC: I didn't tell them to kill people, I was just pointing out who deserved to die! I'm the victim!
RM: I think you're scum. Good luck, Dick.
RC: Am I still smiling? I can't feel my face.
Posted by: Walton, Marquis of Carabas
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December 11, 2009 4:35 AM
How bizarre... Olbermann is the left's equivalent of Bill O'Reilly. He's a loud-mouthed egotistical self-promoting idiot.
Franken, on the other hand, I'm surprisingly impressed with. He's not been a bad senator. And as I said, I'm actually quite impressed with Maddow's professionalism as an interviewer. So this isn't a partisan remark. Equally, the political Right includes some people who are brilliant (Andrew Sullivan), and others who are self-important twits (Bill O'Reilly) or complete and utter basket-cases (Glenn Beck). Every political movement has its share of blithering idiots.
Posted by: truth machine, OM
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December 11, 2009 4:57 AM
She's not holding him personally responsible for what's going on in Uganda exactly
He didn't say she is, but a number of people here are, e.g.,
Also, there's a lot of lightly veiled homophobia here -- the way he is being treated here is very much like gays of the past who tried to hide it in order to meet societal expectations. There's a lot to criticize him for, but the Uganda bill and his apparent gender confusion are not among them.
Posted by: truth machine, OM
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December 11, 2009 5:02 AM
How bizarre... Olbermann is the left's equivalent of Bill O'Reilly. He's a loud-mouthed egotistical self-promoting idiot.
Of course, Walton ... since your judgments are never incorrect, it's bizarre for anyone to have a differing one. (In my view, KO is to B'O as Michael Moore is to Ann Coulter -- they are claimed to be counterparts by people who pay little attention to detail.)
Posted by: Carlie of the lacy, gently wafting adjectives
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December 11, 2009 8:20 AM
I feel sorry for the guy's wife. How must it feel to constantly have the message of "I love you honey...because I spent years and years and years forcing myself to!"
Bill, I get what you've said here and elsewhere about how we ought to have a culture in which sexuality isn't any more privileged or taboo than other characteristics, but we currently don't. I don't think it's the kind of thing that can be changed that way by simply trying to use it that way; it's too similar to the current usage to be distinguishable. I think the only way that could happen is to have a total break away from sexuality being bad before a new milieu of it being neutral could develop.
Sarah from Chicago - sorry I was all stalkery weird and shit. :) That's neat that you're back, and you'll kick ass at policy work.
Posted by: Anubis Bloodsin the third
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December 11, 2009 8:21 AM
#182
"the way he is being treated here is very much like gays of the past who tried to hide it in order to meet societal expectations."
Sorry Truth machine got to disagree on that one.
The cretin is using his dubious and unsubstantiated sexual history to claim a highly suspect contention that it is a lifestyle choice and therefore curable.
This is neither supported by the research or admitted by Homosexuals anywhere.
"There's a lot to criticize him for, but the Uganda bill and his apparent gender confusion are not among them."
But it is to be suggested that his gender confusion, or rather his sexual orientation, is the motivation behind completely crass assumptions on the reason why.
The idiot is in denial and utter meltdown and is blaming anything he can dredge up from the murky depths to excuse himself, the dude is suffering guilt, probably through religious affiliation.
And one reason for Homosexuality is apparently Race! WTF?
Although he probably did not set out to enshrine executions or imprisonment in Uganda for Homosexuality,the fact is that his book will be a plank that mentally hysterical folks,like Warren and 'the family', will quote as 'Proof' of the fact that Homosexuality is outside of the remit of lawful protection, as it is not a civil liberties issue.
(Although how that works with religion I know not...they tend to regard the xian lifestyle as compulsory but they are apparently flame proof in society? but their choice in personal behaviour is apparently sacrosanct)
They might back away from the Ugandan 'cure' in public but they are not overly shocked by that recipe, in fact they are no doubt envious of the pledge.
There is no excuse for Cohen...he is an imbecile...he deserves all the criticism he gets!
Posted by: destlund
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December 11, 2009 10:01 AM
I know that being gay doesn't give me preternatural homophobia detection skills, but it does make me sensitive to it, and I haven't really gotten that vibe so far, except from Cohen himself. He is clearly behaving very much like gays of the past who tried to hide it in order to meet societal expectations, which makes him a very good example of internalized homophobia.The Uganda bill provides a strong (the strongest?) example of just how dangerous preaching his views can be to people, and... wait... gender confusion? You lost me there.
Posted by: David Marjanović
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December 11, 2009 11:01 AM
You're talking about the guy who covered Votergate.
Stop being concerned about tone.
Posted by: DLC
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December 11, 2009 11:57 AM
I like Rachel Maddow.
I don't agree with her on some issues, but nobody's asking me to. One of the things I like about her the most is her brains. Everybody gets one, but she uses hers like a virtuoso. And that's one of the things that make her likable. Further, Ms Maddow's interview style is very much a change of pace from the usual run of talking-head shows. This interview is no exception. She's also interviewed the head of that AstroTurf group that's doing the tea-party anti-healthcare tour. Maddow exposed the guy for the fraud he is, without yelling, name-calling, talking over him or cutting his mic. It was a brilliant job.
PZ is right. Definitely someone to put on the "would love to sit down, have coffee and chew the fat with " list.
Posted by: Pygmy Loris
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December 11, 2009 12:38 PM
Walton,
There's a big difference between Olbermann and O'Reilly. O'Reilly is well-known for making shit up. I happen to like angry and right! Olbermann's hour long Special Comment on health care was spot on and he didn't have to lie to make his points.
Posted by: negentropyeater
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December 11, 2009 2:17 PM
#177 Mike Crichton,
except that Darwin wasn't alive in the 1930s/1940s.
If he had, I doubt he would have stayed idle with the nazi pseudo science that claimed to be inspired by his writings.
Also, I don' recall that Darwin ever wrote stuff such as "the jews are more likely to be criminals" and other damning claims with zero evidence.
That's all that's being asked from Cohen (and the other twots like him, Rick Warren, Scott Lively, Paul Cameron, members of the US neo-conservative Christian Right ans some of their "think-tanks" : see my post #59) : that they reverse the damage they've done with their nonsense.
Cohen has admitted he rejects a particular paragraph in his own book, well, why doesn't he go and explain that to the Ugandans ? Maddow even suggested to sponsor his plane ticket.
And what about all the other Christian right twots who've "inspired' that crazy bill, why don't they go and explain to the Ugandans that many of their claims are complete nonsense ?
If they really think the Ugandan Anti-gay bill is such a bad idea, why don't they explain why ?
Come on, you know the answer.
Posted by: JeffreyD
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December 11, 2009 2:34 PM
Musings on the Rachel Maddow is a hottie theme.
I adore her intellect (more on the adore below) and enjoy listening to her talk. However, I do not find her “hot” nor do I find her fuckable. I think she is as cute as button (yeah, I am 60, deal with it). I tend to think of her more as a niece or the daughter of one of my contemporaries. I find her fascinating and would love to have a meal and/or drinks with her, but wanting to have sex with her just does not enter my mind. I am just not wired that way now. I do find her sexy, just not an object of sexual desire (I am 60, not dead!). I find lots of men and women sexy without wanting to have sex with them.
Rachel reminds me of a friend of mine who is half my age. She and I have had a platonic relationship for well over a decade. Ate together, drank together, worked (briefly) together. I adore her, find her sexy and have told her so without creeping her out - it can be done, and adore her mind. Neither of us has ever wanted it to go farther. Objectively, she is very fuckable - can we find a better phrase? - but that has never entered into our relationship. Has it ever been in the back of either of our minds? Well, it has been in mine, but I put it aside. The affection, friendship, mutual admiration is too valuable to jeopardize.
Full disclosure, apparently I was bit of hound as a young man. At least when I give a correct answer to how many women I have slept with, female friends assure me I was a hound. So, yeah, I have a normal sex drive. I do not think I ever seduced anyone, though I have been seduced, or let myself be. It was all consensual. The one thing all of them had in common was being smart, capable, usually very bright come to think of it. Even my first, an older woman, was brilliant. It has always been thus for me - smart equals sexy.
So, what does sexy mean to me? It means I think someone is fascinating. It does not mean I necessarily want to sex with them. I know I have embarrassed SC several times by telling her I find her mind beautiful. Since I figure I have probably made her uncomfortable I have slowed down on saying that and refrained from telling that to other female regulars here. Of course, I also feel that way about David M, Knockgroats, Josh, the other Jeff, and a few others as well (yep, out of the intellectual crush closet, guys). (Embarrassment alert) I have never met SC, hope to do so some day, never seen a picture of her, but I know what she looks like just as I know what the other women I respect from their posting look like - beautiful, sexy. SC could be a leper IRS auditor and I would still find her beautiful. (Sorry SC, if this makes you uncomfortable.) The guys I like to read all handsome and graceful as well. It partly is the way I am wired, but it is also a choice. It is all because your mind appeals to me, and thus I find you (the general you) desirable for the entire range from friendship to sweaty and breathing hard. However, if I do not love your mind, I will not love your body.
Now, if one of my female intellectual crushes on this blog had the ultimate hots for me and set out to seduce me, if I was not in a stable and committed relationship (this is an absolute no, BTW), if the sight of me did not kill my potential seducers sex drive (possible, I am kinda scary looking), and if I had the rubber sheets and a half gallon of mayonnaise handy, I might, repeat might, succumb. Yeah, this applies to Rachel and to the friend I mentioned above as well, but the odds of all of those things happening are a bit remote.
Hmmm, the above is a ramble so will tie it up, maybe. I think wanting to sleep with someone because they appeal to you is normal, no matter what the appeal is. I do not think fuckable is a compliment and agree with other commentators that saying you have the hots for Rachel is kind of...off putting. Admire her for her brilliance, balance, accomplishments. If you find this irresistible sexy, then that is OK, but I think you should put it that way. Acknowledge the person, acknowledge them for what they are. On the other hand folks sometimes all of us engage in hyperbole. I have said that I would crawl across a street full of broken glass to lick Tina Turner’s ankles. That is hyperbole (well, maybe - how wide is the street?). I do not think saying you would go gay for someone is an insult nor do I find it denying the object of affection/crush their personhood. I do not think that is objectifying the person. Well, sometime I am wrong and I know I can rely on this crowd to let me know. (smile) Be kind, it is 730PM here and on my second good Scotch.
Ciao y’all
Posted by: Bill Dauphin, avec fromage
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December 11, 2009 2:53 PM
neg:
The Cohen/Darwin analogy is full of even more FAIL than that: Cohen treats homosexuality as an affliction that can be cured1, if the homosexual wants to be cured. This way of looking at it enables a regime that considers homosexuality evil to treat homosexual people as perpretrators of evil, rather than as victims. We may or may not be able to blame Cohen for the fact that Uganda considers homosexuality evil, but in any case, his assertion is the basis for this shifting of "blame."
For the Cohen is to Uganda as Darwin was to Nazi Germany analogy to be apt, Darwin would've had to claim that Jewishness was curable, and thus that anyone who remained Jewish did so by choice... which, in real life, is parsecs from anything Darwin ever actually said... and, BTW, not what the Nazis believed, either. The link between Cohen's assertions and the Ugandan law is much more direct than even the wildest accusations of Darwin having inspired Hitler.
Further, it's not just a matter of unintended consequences of well-intentioned work: I'm firmly convinced that Cohen is lying about gay conversion for the sake of making profits off the misery of others (note: I'm not suggesting gay people are necessarily miserable, but I am suggesting that only miserable people would subject themselves to — and pay for — Cohen's "treatment"). The Ugandan connection may or may not be unintended, but Cohen's work is the diametric opposite of well-intentioned.
1 Yes, I heard his blah, blah, blah about how he avoids the word "cure," but I ain't buying any: He knows full well that his model is that of curing an affliction; any pretense to the contrary is just a matter of trying to establish plausible deniability.
Posted by: pdferguson
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December 11, 2009 4:11 PM
walton wrote:
True, but in the case of the Republican meltdown still going on, they have way, way more than their share. It's much easier to enumerate those who aren't blithering right wing idiots than those who are.
What's truly amazing is how many of these idiots (Palin, Beck, Bachmann, ...) have become so detached from reality that it becomes worrisome. There is something going on that isn't healthy for those individuals or society in general. It's also interesting to note that many people on the right who are more sane and intelligent, like Andrew Sullivan, have shifted their positions considerably over the last year around issues like health care and foreign policy.
And as for Olbermann and O'Reilly, about the only thing they have in common are egos that can be seen from the space shuttle. As others have correctly pointed out, as newsmen (a term that really doesn't apply to O'Reilly in the first place) they couldn't be further apart.
Posted by: negentropyeater
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December 11, 2009 4:16 PM
Bill,
indeed, the "Cohen is to Uganda as Darwin was to Nazi Germany" analogy is pathetic.
But the "Cohen/Cameron/Lively/Warren are to Uganda as Fischer/von Verschuer/Lenz/Baur were to Nazi Germany analogy would seems more appropriate.
Posted by: Dust
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December 11, 2009 8:26 PM
"...the banality of evil."
He iz it.
Posted by: Acronym Jim
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December 12, 2009 12:40 PM
Strangest Brew@156:
Then he must be very good at faking it, because he came across to me as a genuine halfwit.
And is it just me, or did he seem to be strangely "happy" with being publicly humiliated? Perhaps like certain trolls, he derives satisfaction rather than shame(or both at the same time?) from a good rhetorical flogging.
Does Smoggy have his contact info yet?
Posted by: truth machine, OM
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December 12, 2009 1:09 PM
The cretin is using his dubious and unsubstantiated sexual history to claim a highly suspect contention that it is a lifestyle choice and therefore curable.
This is neither supported by the research or admitted by Homosexuals anywhere.
Did I say otherwise? You claim to disagree yet you didn't even address what I wrote.
Posted by: truth machine, OM
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December 12, 2009 1:15 PM
For the Cohen is to Uganda as Darwin was to Nazi Germany analogy to be apt, Darwin would've had to claim that Jewishness was curable
No; you don't understand analogies, which don't assert that everything is in common, only that some relevant things are. What you in effect are saying is that, if someone's work is used to justify genocide, that really is the fault of that person, despite their not endorsing the genocide or its justification, as long as they are making a false claim.
Posted by: truth machine, OM
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December 12, 2009 1:20 PM
But the "Cohen/Cameron/Lively/Warren are to Uganda as Fischer/von Verschuer/Lenz/Baur were to Nazi Germany analogy would seems more appropriate.
That's vile nonsense. As the article you site says,
"While the Mischling descendants of the mixed marriages might be useful for Germany, he recommended that they be eradicated after their usefulness ended."
Cohen has not called for the eradication of anyone or the banning of anything. Again, there is much to criticize Cohen for, but it is those who use his book as an excuse to kill gays who have the blood on their hands.
Posted by: truth machine, OM
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December 12, 2009 1:26 PM
There is no excuse for Cohen...he is an imbecile...he deserves all the criticism he gets!
You share the impulse of those who think that criminals in prison deserve to be anally raped.
Posted by: destlund
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December 12, 2009 1:34 PM
truth machine, that's a bit of a stretch. It seems he more shares the impulse of those who think that criminals deserve to be prosecuted and imprisoned.
Posted by: negentropyeater
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December 12, 2009 1:55 PM
Agreed, so I take away what I wrote in post #194.
I stick with what I wrote in #190, and I think it's fair to blame him (and others) for being partly responsible for the Ugandan bill.
Posted by: SC OM
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December 12, 2009 2:26 PM
JeffreyD,
What's your email address?
Posted by: SC OM
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December 12, 2009 3:09 PM
Yes. That. I think it's tremendous that people find her attractive for (in addition to not being hard on the eyes; but...huh) her intellect, logic, voice, intensity,... I don't mind that people talk about how hot she is - in fact, in this case it's cool; just wish they would talk more about why :).
But:
Hmmm. I think this dilutes the word. As I see it, it's a strange set of Venn diagrams, with complex and ambiguous relationships between the "sexy" set and others...
Posted by: PZ Myers
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December 12, 2009 3:34 PM
I don't quite accept that. I work with all these 18-22 year old women, and no, I don't want to sleep with them. At all. I think human relationships are a lot more complicated than that, and we're able to maintain a majority of our social connections with sexual desire kept completely out of the equation.
Well, some people can't. And they're a problem.
Posted by: Bill Dauphin, avec fromage
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December 12, 2009 3:45 PM
truth machine (@198):
Well, there's an extraordinarily broad claim, as gratuitously insulting as it is (if I do say so myself) unfounded.
Indeed. But your analysis, far from showing that I don't understand analogies, simply demonstrates that you didn't understand what I was saying was relevant (even though it was pretty well spelled out in the balance of my post):
No, what I am saying is that theoretical work's degree of responsibility for derived policies follows from how directly the two are related. Cohen's work makes very specific claims about a very specific population of people, and those claims have been fairly directly translated into policy by the Ugandans. IMHO, that makes him responsible to some degree for the existence of that policy (not, BTW, that some degree of responsibility ≠ strict culpability).
There is, I assert, a nontrivial difference between basing an evil policy on directly relevant theoretical assertions, on the one hand, and stretching and distorting essentially unrelated theory to justify an evil policy. For any theorist to stand in the same relation to the Holocaust that Cohen stands to the genocidal Ugandan law (which, as an aside, seems to have been somewhat softened in the wake of international condemnation), that theorist would have had to make specific claims about the Jews (for the most obvious example, though I don't mean to dismiss the other victims of the Holocaust) that would have required only the addition of the Nazis' perception of Jewishness as evil for translation into genocidal policy. (And it's not as if Cohen was blissfully unaware that there were people in the world looking for excuses to persecute gays.)
Which is precisely what my analogy said: The beef I have with Cohen is that his work gave the Ugandans all the philosophical ammunition they needed to get from their a priori position that homosexuality is bad to a legally plausible justification for eliminating (either by imprisonment or death) gay people from their society. Nothing about Darwin's work on evolution bears directly on what the Nazis saw as the "problem" of Jewishness in any even vaguely similar way. The Ugandans made a perfectly reasonable and fairly direct inference from Cohen's work ("reasonable," that is, given their going-in position... a false premise, of course, but the premise they were reasoning from just the same); the Nazis did nothing of the sort WRT Darwin.
BTW, I didn't attribute Cohen's responsibility to the falseness of his claim; I said the craven dishonesty and invidious intentions of his claim (i.e., my specific assertion was that he was lying for the purpose of profiting off of misery) exacerbated his moral guilt. If Cohen's claims were the result of well-intentioned, honest work that was simply wrong, he'd still be responsible (and to the same degree) for the outcomes that work enabled, but his moral guilt would, IMHO, be mitigated.
Finally, it seems to me that there's a rich tradition of scientists worrying about the moral implications arising from practical and political application of their work. Honest scientists worry about it, that is; charlatans like Cohen shrug the question off with facile armwaving.
I can't understand for the life of me why you're defending this guy, even a little bit.
Posted by: SC OM
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December 12, 2009 3:54 PM
Except what? :P
That's fine, but then you wouldn't be talking about how sexy they are, no? (That's what JeffreyD was doing.) I'm not arguing that all relationships are necessarily sexual, but that there isn't this clean line on a spectrum or hierarchy (I don't believe these exist) that divides the two. As you say, human relationships are complicated.
For you there's a set of women you want to have dinner and/or drinks with which doesn't overlap with those you connect with intellectually or emotionally? Those you find fascinating? Those you adore as friends? Those you think are pretty? Those who appeal to you physically?
Posted by: Walton, Marquis of Carabas
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December 12, 2009 3:58 PM
Bill, if I were you I would simply ignore truth machine. He seems to take great pleasure in gratuitously insulting and attacking anyone who dares disagree with him. His MO is to provoke pointless arguments about minor and pedantic points, simply so he has an opportunity to fling invective at others and question their intelligence.
I am well aware that one of the founding principles of Pharyngula is "it's better to be right than to be nice". But truth machine takes this too far. He doesn't just attack trolls; he attacks everyone.
Posted by: SC OM
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December 12, 2009 4:05 PM
In other words, if you say, "Oh, she's smart, cool, articulate, funny, but I appreciate that in a completely nonsexual way," it seems to me that you're suggesting basically that sexuality and sexual desire only about a narrow range of physical attributes.
Oh, fuck off. He just provided extremely educational links re eliminativism on another thread a few hours ago.
Posted by: negentropyeater
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December 12, 2009 4:20 PM
So, you find more relevant things in common in the Cohen/Darwin analogy than in the Cohen/Fischer one ?
Posted by: JeffreyD
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December 12, 2009 5:06 PM
SC OM, #203 - Per your request my email is keltixx (at) yahoo.com . Please do not hurt me. (smile)
Ciao
Posted by: Bill Dauphin, avec fromage
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December 12, 2009 5:18 PM
Walton:
Nah. By not ignoring him, I was able to sharpen my own argument, and further explain the case I was making to others who potentially might have misunderstood it in the same way TM did.
True, I could've done without the gratuitous "you simpleton!" he employed as his opening salvo, but I'm a big boy; it's all good.
Posted by: negentropyeater
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December 12, 2009 5:28 PM
Scott Lively has issued a statement on the Ugandan Kill The Gays Bill :
Posted by: destlund
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December 12, 2009 5:58 PM
Pro-family? Really? Why do attack movements never admit that they're against someone? Oh, I guess I'll just get mar-- hey! Fuck you, too, and the horse you rode in on! This really chaps my ass. "Lifestyle" is a hedge. It's a straw man that only Fred Phelps dares knock down in public, but every time a conservative uses it, they get a little mental reward as follows: being gay is a lifestyle -> lifestyles are adopted by choice -> being gay is a choice -> gays are evil and must be destroyed. Tolerated? TOLERATED?! It's barely tolerated today! Oh and I think whPosted by: destlund
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December 12, 2009 6:04 PM
Pro-family? Really? Why do attack movements never admit that they're against someone? Oh, I guess I'll just get mar-- hey! Fuck you, too, and the horse you rode in on! This really chaps my ass. "Lifestyle" is a hedge. It's a straw man that only Fred Phelps dares knock down in public, but every time a conservative uses it, they get a little dopamine rush from following the logic: being gay is a lifestyle -> lifestyles are adopted by choice -> being gay is a choice -> gays are evil and must be destroyed. That last bit is a non sequiter, but who said God had to be logical? I think when you said "humanity" you meant "wealthy white men." Also, tolerated? TOLERATED?! It's barely tolerated today! Salvatore Romano is not who I want to be. Ever. I haven't got time to respond to this one, as I'm late for my love-in. Seriously, where does this guy get off? I bet it's somewhere pretty sleazy.Posted by: destlund
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December 12, 2009 6:06 PM
Oh shoot. I accidentally posted while I was working on it, but I thought I hit "back" before teh intertubes did their job. PZ if you're watching, would you delete the draft please?
Posted by: Bill Dauphin, avec fromage
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December 12, 2009 6:26 PM
Carlie (@184):
Yeah, "here and elswhere." Between this thread, the porn thread, and a couple other recent threads on related topics, I begin to fear that I've reduced myself, in the eyes of this community, to a mustachioed, turtleneck-wearing pencil drawing straight out of an old copy of The Joy of Sex. I'm really not as retro-sex-obsessed as these threads must make me seem; my interest is largely (sadly) intellectual.
I actually had written (and rewritten, and copyedited) a long response in my head, but eventually decided to shelve it for fear of perpetuating my own self-generated stereotype. That's why it's taken me so long to get around to this much briefer reply.
I think you and I probably agree broadly that Things Are Not as They Should Be®, howevermuch we may differ on the path to improvement. I'm happy to focus on the agreement more than the conflict. It's just that many of the arguments folks (I'm not saying you) make in this debate boil down to "people (and mostly men) should just stop thinking so much about sex." Which might even work... but strikes me as vanishingly unlikely to happen in anyone here's lifetime.
In addition, while I understand the logic behind the argument advanced by some that it's OK for women and gay men to pash on people like Maddow, "you straight men need to just put it on the shelf," it's hard to find any justice in that approach.
Jus' sayin'...
Posted by: negentropyeater
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December 12, 2009 6:39 PM
yep, Scott Lively is a real piece of work :
"to re-homosexualize" ?
Choice selection of Lively-quotes (note the Christian Love):
Posted by: llewelly
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December 12, 2009 6:50 PM
truth machine, OM | December 12, 2009 1:26 PM:
uh, you compare criticism to anal rape?
Posted by: SC OM
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December 12, 2009 8:01 PM
:D. I'm sure that's not true. I think part of the complexity is that some people are talking (unconsciously at times) about sex or sexual desire as somehow inherently immoral, while others are talking about the moral aspects of the intersection between sex and power relationships. There's so much overlap amongst all of the camps that these discussions can get very confusing.
***
Hitler's Scientists is a good read. It's not a matter of responsible or not responsible, but of determining personal moral responsibility in specific cases. It's extremely important to do so.
Posted by: Bill Dauphin, avec fromage
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December 12, 2009 11:18 PM
This just in: Texas has many, many flaws, but tonight my old stomping ground of Houston helped prove that Texas is still a few steps ahead of Uganda, by electing a lesbian as Mayor of the countries 4th largest city! Wonder if she'll grant Rachel Maddow an interview?
Posted by: Bill Dauphin, avec fromage
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December 12, 2009 11:21 PM
Urkk! "...country's...," not "...countries...."
All I can say is it's late, and I've had a long day.
Posted by: Carlie of the lacy, gently wafting adjectives
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December 13, 2009 9:53 AM
Yes, this. I never would have been able to figure it out and express it as clearly as SC did, but I think that gets right at it. I don't mind a bit that people find each other sexy; it's the fact that historically women have always been kept "in their place" by sex appeal being their most important characteristic that I don't like. And, since both "you're sexy" and "you're sexy and that's the most important thing about you" often get expressed the exact same way, I don't think it's easy to just substitute one for the other without a lot of potential for misunderstanding and perpetuating of the latter mindset.
Posted by: Paul W., OM
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December 13, 2009 11:30 AM
Bill,
Yep. First lesbian mayor of a major U.S. city, and the largest city in the U.S. with an out gay mayor.
Yee haw. Pretty damned cool for Texas---not even Austin, that wouldn't be a big surprise, but Houston that did this. (I guess we're not all a bunch of religious right rednecks down here.)
Kind of cool for Texas to be #1 in something good, for a change.
I'm an old Houston boy, too. (Montrose is the gay neighborhood I referred to earlier, where I lived and worked for years. Wish I could be there for the celebrations.)
I remember the bad old days when the corrupt cops used to do atrocious things (or atrociously fail to do things), and nobody'd make a big deal about it, because who gives a damn about a bunch of fags?
Wow, times have really changed. I've always been a gay rights advocate, but until a few years ago, I never thought I'd see this in my lifetime. Just wow.
Let's hope atheists can shift the Overton Window so much...
Posted by: Aratina Cage
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December 13, 2009 11:52 AM
I was so glad to hear that Annise Parker won the Houston election. She doesn't shy away from being gay, either; from her acceptance speech:
And *tears up* she recognized her wife of 19 years, Kathy Hubbard, and their son and daughter.Posted by: Paul W., OM
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December 13, 2009 12:41 PM
I'm kind of amazed that Parker won, in a runoff with low turnout. (Runoffs usually have low turnout.) Only a bit more than 1 in 8 eligible voters voted.
(Probably because Parker and her opponent are both democrats and not very far apart on most actual issues. So it was the black straight guy vs. the white lesbian, and most people just didn't care much.)
Normally, a gay candidate is very vulnerable in a low-turnout election, because the right wing religious kooks will get out the vote and make sure they lose.
They tried, and they failed.
She is also not a shrinking violet almost-closeted lesbian who knows her place. She got her start in politics as a gay activist, and has always been out and proud. She's the kind of gay person who the right like to stereotype as actively promoting their sinful lifestyle and recruiting your children.
She didn't make her sexuality an issue in the race, but she's a longtime destroyer-of-the-family-and-thefabric-of-society. (With a mate of 19 years and three kids.)
Interestingly, she had the endorsement of the police union. I guess HPD has changed considerably since I lived there.
Posted by: destlund
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December 14, 2009 3:17 PM
@Paul W.
Hey, I vote for Leslie every time he runs. It's not my fault people don't see "homeless cross-dresser" as an electable demographic. I don't think he's gay, anyway, but if you keep up with such things, he's recovering well from being beaten into a coma by crackheads.