A new member of the TfK family

Sorry that blogging has been extra-crappy lately. Honestly, no Independence Day post? WTF?

Well, it’s like this.

A while back I met Debra Berliner. She was smart and cute and made the same sorts of jokes I liked to make and laughed when I made them and enjoyed the same sorts of projects I do. Our interests meshed and we had lots to talk about. So we spent time together.


We went to farmers markets. We went biking. We memorized Muppet movies and Decemberists songs. We knocked on doors in Reno and Las Vegas to get Obama elected. We looked at 3D images from Mars at NASA’s Ames facility. We went to the weddings of our gay and lesbian friends when they were legal. We knocked on doors in California to restore that right to our friends and family who now cannot marry.

We went to a garden here in Oakland, and I asked her if she’d marry me, and she said yes.

And now we’re spending a lot of time visiting parks where we can hold the ceremony, and interviewing caterers and thinking about the best day, and deciding what the rings should look like, and keeping track of all that will follow when all this planning is done, and the ceremony happens, and our life together commences.

Debbie and I will keep you updated as the process moves along. We expect the wedding to be next summer, somewhere in the Bay area. You’ll know more when we do. Thanks to you, dear readers, for welcoming this new member of our family, and for your indulgence as the planning and other adjustments to married life impoverish the blogging.



  1. #1 John Pieret
    July 7, 2009

    Congratulations to you and best wishes to you both!

  2. #2 John M. Lynch
    July 7, 2009

    And I say it again .. best wishes Josh & Debbie. Married life is indeed an adjustment but is worth it all (he said nearly 15 years later!).

  3. #3 RBH
    July 8, 2009

    Aw. You guys are cute. Congratulations to Josh and sympathy to Debbie. :)

  4. #4 ptet
    July 8, 2009

    gz & i wish u joy :)

  5. #5 foole
    July 8, 2009


    But on to more important stuff: in the second picture you’re wearing a zip-up shirt that has ‘Oakland’ printed underneath a picture of something that looks similar to an AT-AT with boxes leading to a picture of something that looks even more like an AT-AT. What is on that shirt?

  6. #6 Pablo
    July 8, 2009

    Aww, congratulations!

    Can’t you come back here to Kansas for the ceremony?

  7. #7 Cheryl Shepherd-Adams
    July 8, 2009

    Congrats, Josh!

  8. #8 Erin
    July 8, 2009

    Congratulations, Josh! I’m sure there are no shortage of beautiful places in the Bay Area to get married.

  9. #9 hjr
    July 8, 2009

    Congrats. Welcome to the new member of the TFK family. You both look so happy in the photos. My it be that way forever.

  10. #10 Jennifer Ouellette
    July 8, 2009

    Aw, congrats! Couldn’t happen to a nicer guy! :)

  11. #11 Keith Sader
    July 8, 2009

    Congrats Josh from one of your fans & readers back here in KC!

  12. #12 Keith Sader
    July 8, 2009

    Congrats Josh from one of your fans & readers back here in KC!

  13. #13 scripto
    July 8, 2009

    Congrats – don’t let this one get away. A woman that laughs at your jokes is a rare thing indeed. At least it is for me.
    Hey, you don’t think it’s because…

  14. #14 Sivi Volk
    July 8, 2009

    Hey, great!

  15. #15 Ted Herrlich
    July 8, 2009

    Congrats! I have been married for 32 years now and the importance of a sense of humor cannot be overstated! My wife has one hell of a great one . . . and she needs it on a daily basis! Best wishes for you both!

  16. #16 Frank Schmidt
    July 8, 2009

    It’s a common story: Blogger ends up on the West Coast. Blogger meets compatible person. Blogger decides to get married. Blogger asks compatible person. Compatible person accepts.

    I never knew the Net was a yenta, and living in the Bay area.

    Many congratulations. Enjoy. Frank

  17. #17 Cappy
    July 8, 2009


  18. #18 Conservative Crazy Man
    July 8, 2009

    Congradulations and hope you have a happy life together.


    However, I wouldn’t be bragging about going to a gay fake wedding though. That’s a bad way to start out. There is no such thing as a ay marriage. maybe in the eyes of secular liberals, but not in the eyes of God who created marriage between one man and one woman. BTW is has been illegal for gays to unionize (don;t call it marriage, that’s blasphemy) since day one of creation 6,000 years ago. 250,000,000,000,000,000 eternities from now it will still be wrong and illegal. You cannot chnage the wrongness of something.

  19. #19 Dave R
    July 8, 2009

    Congrats, Josh and Debbie! I hope your shared life will be rewarding and full of love.

  20. #20 Joan and David Karlin
    July 8, 2009

    Dear Josh,

    Congratulations on your engagement. We are very excited for you and for Debbie.

    We look forward to meeting Debbie. We will contact you and arrange to get together to celebrate with you both this very special time in your lives.

    All the best.


    Joan and David

  21. #21 Beth Davis-Berg
    July 9, 2009

    Congrats Josh and Debbie! If you want advice on wedding planning let me know.

  22. #22 Comrade PhysioProf
    July 9, 2009

    Congrats, holmes!

  23. #23 Size
    July 10, 2009

    Congrats Josh!

  24. #24 Involved1
    July 10, 2009

    I used to get worked up when I read self-righteous, mean-spirited, narrow-minded, fact-deficited, brainwashed comments like those of “Conservative Crazy Man”. But, after a while (years really), I came to the conclusion that its good to let them flap their angel wings and rant from their imagined lofty perches above the rest of us. Interesting how religious bigots are selective in what they cite from the Old and New Testaments. Amazing how they have no problem with any of the stories of incest, polygamy, stoning, mass murder of innocents, and religious persecution, to name just a few of the less agregious sins. People like Conservative Crazy Man just don’t get it: You can be a devout and righteous person and still question religious teaching.

    Fundamentalists, no matter what their religion or their ethnic background, are one of the Human Race’s greatest threats. Like the not-lamented Berlin Wall, they stand with their clay feet firmly fixed in concrete, forever seeking to separate rather than to encourage interaction and communication. Sad.

  25. #25 Physicalist
    July 10, 2009

    Congratulations! That’s great.

    Let’s see, if I were looking for a wedding site in the Bay area . . . Mt. Tam? Nah, closer to the water maybe. Pigeon Point perhaps? There’s a B&B across the road you can rent out.

    But trees would be nice too . . . Hmm.

  26. #26 Reynold
    July 11, 2009

    And now we’re spending a lot of time visiting parks where we can hold the ceremony, and interviewing caterers and thinking about the best day, and deciding what the rings should look like…
    Well, I can help you out with your preparations a little bit: The rings should be round with a hole in the middle.

  27. #27 george
    July 13, 2009

    But… but… aren’t you worried about the sanctity of your marriage being undermined by your gay friends???

    Seriously, congrats. Marriage is great. I just celebrated my first anniversary this weekend :)

  28. #28 Stuart Elliott
    July 16, 2009


  29. #29 Casey Luskin
    October 13, 2009

    Just saw this post today — many congratulations Josh — you both look very happy together.

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