Semi-Casual Fridays: What curse words really @#$& you off?

I don't think vagina or penis are cursewords. Might be because I'm not native english speaker, but I have always associated them with neutral medical terms. I mean, if they are cursewords, what do you call parts you show your urologist/gyneogologist?

I would agree that proper terms aren't cursewords and therefor are not offensive. Even most cursewords don't bother me. The words I find most offensive are all racially and most sexually derogative terms (b*tch doesn't phase me).

My husband found the whole Imus thing amusing and repeated the line over and over for about 2-3 days. After the first couple of times I got really mad and threatened to wash his mouth out with soap while he slept. He settled down after that :)

yeah, penis and vagina? I can think of worse than that. Think of Carlin's words you can say. Tits, balls, cocksucker. Where's good old fashioned cocksucker? And how come only the N word? What about other racial epithets? I guess that's a whole other casual friday...

I imagine there's probably some reason for including words like penis and vagina. Maybe the purpose is to distract us into thinking they're curse words when really the purpose is to be able to compare with how offensively we rank non-offensive words to get a control. He just didn't want to use a word like "blue" because it would have cause us just to mark nonoffensive without considering our answer.

Or maybe Dave just gets really giggly when he hears the names of body parts. :-)

I really had to restrain myself with the number of words ... there are so many! But it was getting very long as it was, so I just had to stop at some point. There's no real surprise to this study, so I can let you in on some of my thinking -- I wanted to include the "benign" and "loaded" versions of several different terms, to see if the concept itself was what people saw as offensive or the particular word used to describe the concept.

Looks like i Say you *%£king C*@T a lot!

Why did you ask if people were gay/straight/whatever?
why Fag and not Dyke?

Speaking for myself, most of the words were not offensive at all. I took offense only when the context indicated perversion (loaded as you say).

When you say 'use' I think you mean 'direct at a person'.

There's a difference between "Life is a bitch" and "She is a bitch".

At work, I wouldn't talk about anyone's body parts. But I would say that Cheney's first name is Richard, Dick is his job title.

For "gay" I assumed it to be used in a derogatory way. For that I put that I never use the word. But I certainly say "gay" a lot when I am talking about gay rights.

I find the degree of offense I take is entirely dependent on the (perceived)intention of the person using it. I know most of my friends at school to be rather liberal and most of them have friends who are, or are homosexual. So I'm not ever offended when they use "fag"(a word which carries many nuances of meaning). Point being, if someone I know to be a homophobic racist uses the words "fag" or "nigger", I'm extremely offended. If my friend does, who isn't either, I'm not.

By advising those who "might be disturbed by the language" not to participate you have skewed your sample. This will make the results worthless.

For some of these words, I found myself wondering about usage. Sometimes I say, "[xxx] is acting like such a bitch." At other times, it's "Don't bitch at me like that!" Is the word more offensive as a noun or a verb?

The words I get *so* sick of hearing are "Oh, my God!"

This was an interesting and fun study. You might get some bizarre results on certain words because people interpreted them in different ways. For instance, unlike Scott (#9), I interpreted "gay" to mean "all instances of the word 'gay'" - and therefore I don't find it offensive at all, and use it quite often myself. I'd be interested if any words showed bimodally-distributed results like this.

I'm also curious how perceived offensiveness of the slur directed at oneself varies with demographic characteristics (which I imagine you intend to look at, given that you asked about them). I tried to imagine someone calling me "n*gger" or "penis", for example, and found it mainly giggle-worthy (being a white female), even though I think "n*gger" is an extremely offensive word. In that vein, I confess to a bit of disappointment that you didn't also ask about orientation, since that would probably affect the offensiveness of words like "gay", "fag", etc.

Penis and Vagina are going to get very different different responses from different social and age groups. My mother, a surgeon, probably uses each of those many times a day. I, too, use them once or twice a day when talking to my toddler--I mean she asks so I'm going to talk about it. But I don't think I said either one more than once a month prior to having a kid. Does this spread in usage help or hinder analysis of a survey like this?

I agree with the other commenters who weren't sure whether to consider how the word was used. I think I would be upset if someone called me a vagina, but I wouldn't be upset if someone just used the word vagina in general conversation. I wouldn't be upset if someone called me gay, because I am, but on the other hand, I'm probably all the more sensitive to someone saying "that's so gay!" because it offends me when sexuality is used as an insult. Anyway, I answered as if the words were used in a way meant to insult.

I think if you don't think of "penis" and "vagina" as offensive, you're just not being creative enough - you smelly penishead.

Whatever happened to "shit"?

Josh, your toddler asks about penises and vaginas once or twice a day?!?! Goodness.

My favorite is still "bunghole."

Beavis: "What's a bunghole?"
Butthead: "You're a bunghole, bunghole!"

Wow, that filled up fast.

This reminds me of the BBC study:
http://www.asa.org.uk/NR/rdonlyres/1EAEACA7-8322-4C86-AAC2-4261551F57FE…

I, like you, don't easily offend. Words themselves don't do it, context and intent are everything, but even expressed with vehement hostility they don't really boil my blood. More saddening than maddening. I never the less find the study of the cultural variations amongst insults and taboos interesting, and telling.

I missed the survey. Was "censorship" on it? That's my choice.

Nothing makes me more angry than a bleep tone (or silence) instead of the actual word.

Wow --

I'm back from my trip and it looks like everything is in order. I'll probably post some pictures on wordmunger.com later today; I'll link from here.

Sorry the survey filled up so quickly! We're working on finding a survey solution that will allow for more responses, but since there are only two more Casual Friday studies before we leave for our summer break, it will probably have to wait until the fall.

Damn! You ffing retard! Why couldn't you find a better site sooner ;-)) I'd love to have done the test!
But I have to agree with posters that say context is everything. A simple word like "stupid" (or retard;-) can offend more than any expletive in the right context. OTOH it is also a fact that wanting to be offended is what plays a role: you can gain a strategic advance by acting being offended. In that context almost any word can be interpreted as offensive.