[Here is why I will always remember. This was posted here originally on 11 September 2006.]
Let me tell you about John Michael Griffin, Jr.
Griff, as he was known in high school, was a friend of mine.
Late in the first half of our lives, he stood up for me physically and philosophically, for being a science geek. John's endorsement was the first time I was ever deemed cool for wanting to be a scientist.
Griff died an engineer and hero in the collapse of one of the World Trade Center towers five [eight] years ago today.
We lost touch almost twenty years before, but his kindness and friendship formed not only one of the cornerstones of the scientific life I have today, but in the person and father I have become as well.
At a northern New Jersey Catholic high school, in a predominantly Irish town, being a gangly Polish boy from two towns over was not the formula to cultivate one's popularity or self-preservation.
Throwing the curve in biology and chemistry classes didn't help either, nor did being a David Bowie fan in a place where Bruce Springsteen was as revered as St. Patrick. That's probably where the nickname, "Zowie," came from - the name of the glam rocker's first child.
Worse, I had skipped a grade in elementary school, and being a year behind physically was not compatible with self-preservation during high school gym class.
But, it was a very simple gesture, sometime in junior year, when one of the packs of scoundrels had me cornered, slamming me against the wall and throwing my books down the hallway. I believe that the offense was that our biology teacher had taken to buying me a Pepsi everytime I scored 100 on one of his exams, and I had been enjoying yet another one.
John, already well on his way to his adult height of 6' 7" or 6' 8", stepped in and said, "Hey, lay off of Zowie. He's goin' places." And with that, the beatings stopped.
I didn't play sports, at least not any of the ones offered by our school. At that time, soccer hadn't taken off in the States but I was a huge player and had met John at Giants Stadium in the NJ Meadowlands where I had season tickets (Section 113, row 7, seat 26) for the relocated New York Cosmos. At just $4 a ticket for kids 16 and under, I could afford season tickets to see some of the greatest international soccer stars of the late 20th century: Germany's Franz Beckenbauer, Italy's Giorgio Chinaglia, Yugoslavia's Vladislav Bogiçeviç, and, of course, Brazil's great Pelé.
All accounts of John as an adult include his devotion to the Giants, NY Rangers, and NY Yankees, but few recall those soccer days. John's family were long-time Giants season ticket holders and probably got their Cosmos season tickets three rows behind me as some sort of promotional giveaway. I recall that John was surprised that a science dork such as I would be cool enough to know about soccer and come to games myself, my father dropping me off outside the gates so he could go home and watch his beloved football games.
But, we Jersey boys loved soccer at a school where American football and basketball reigned supreme. Many Saturday and Sunday afternoons were spent at the massive stadium during soccer's American heyday of the late 1970s, with crowds of 50,000 - 75,000 that have yet to be matched today.
Among John's gifts was the ability to make anything fun and to make anyone laugh. I recall sitting with him in a ski lodge in Amsterdam, NY, as I was recovering from frostbite during an ill-prepared class trip ski weekend. He pulled me into an imaginary board game with a napkin dispenser, where he pretended each napkin contained a message as to how to proceed during each turn. We looked at each other in horror when the waitress came unannounced and cleared our table of the napkins.
As a teenager, John was a physical caricature, handsome but a goof, self-effacing but self-confident, and had a clever and caustic wit, both of which he carried into adult professional life and fatherhood. His 15 Sept 2001 missing notice in the Bergen (NJ) Record noted that schoolkids called him, "Barney," to reflect how they flocked to his presence.
No one was safe from John's good-hearted and bombastic comedy routines. My father was nicknamed, "Groucho," by John due to the resemblance of his thick mustache to that of the 1930's comedian - John would burst spontaneously into seemingly classic Marx Brothers riffs, but with the content imitating my father carrying on about some printing press mishap.
[From Class of 1981, St. Mary's High School, Rutherford, NJ: Clockwise from John with cap in the foreground: Kevin Tormey, Joe McGuire, Matt DiTomasso, Walter Marlowe (valedictorian), Benn O'Hara]
My last remembrances of John are half a life away, from the impromptu high school graduation party he called at my house to his pride at finishing his engineering degree and managing facilities for a million-square foot building in Manhattan.
Perhaps he protected me as a kid because he knew that way deep down, he was destined to become an engineering geek himself. And a hero, a much bigger hero, in protecting the lives of others in a very real way.
On the glorious fall morning of 11 Sept 2001, I was fixing coffee for my wife who had been sleeping in when the newsreader on my pager announced that a jet had struck the south tower of the World Trade Center.
I had missed my recent 20-year high school reunion and had not known that John had only months before been appointed director of operations at the WTC by Larry Silverstein's, Silverstein Properties.
I did not learn until two weeks later that John had facilitated the escape of dozens of workers, handing out wet towels so people could breathe on their way down the stairs. In the 102 Minutes book by New York Times writers Jim Lynch and Kevin Flynn, John is immortalized in the corroborated account of the elevator rescue of 72-year-old Port Authority construction inspector, Tony Savas.
When he returned to 78, Greg Trapp saw a group of three Port Authority employees at work on the doors to the elevator where Tony Savas, a seventy-two-year-old structural inspector, was trapped. Trapp peered into the small gap and saw him, a man with thinning white hair, seemingly serene. One of the workers grabbed a metal easel, wedging the legs into the opening, trying to spread the doors from the bottom, where they seemed to have the greatest leverage. But their efforts had the opposite effect at the top of the doors, which seemed to pinch tighter.
At that moment, John Griffin, who had recently started as the trade center's director of operations, came over to the elevator bank. At six feet, eight inches tall, Griffin had no problem reaching the top of the door to apply pressure as the others pushed from the bottom. The doors popped apart. Out came Savas, who seemed surprised to find Griffin, his new boss, involved in the rescue. Savas seemed exhilarated, possessed of a sudden burst of energy, rubbing his hands together, or so it seemed to Trapp.
"Okay," Savas said. "What do you need me to do?"
One of the Port Authority workers shook his head. "We just got you out-you need to leave the building."
No, Savas insisted. He wanted to help. "I've got a second wind."
John and Mr. Savas stayed behind.
John's wife, June, sweetheart of the class behind us, was quoted in John's NYT, Portraits of Grief:
"He was at the back of about 30 people they were evacuating," he wife, June Griffin, related from the accounts of survivors. "He had been in fires before -- he should have gotten out."
Mrs. Griffin speculated that her husband, instead of running for the exits, headed for the fire control center, where his training as a fire safety officer would have directed him. "He was an engineer," Mrs. Griffin said. "He must have thought, `Buildings don't just fall down.'"
John also left two daughters, both now teenagers, his parents, a younger brother and older sister, and literally hundreds of friends.
Not just any friends, either - anyone who knew John still says that when he talked with you, it was as though you were the most important person in the world.
Leaving New Jersey in the mid-1980s and running on the tenure-track treadmill 1,600 miles away caused me to stop living life and lose track of a great many friends. I am deeply saddened not to have known John as an adult, a devoted husband and, by all accounts, a remarkable father.
Since John's death, we've all found a little more time in our schedules to make time for one another. As the father of a little girl conceived in the months after the terrorist attacks, I try to respect June's privacy and just send little gifts for the girls every so often. I cannot imagine how they and nearly 3,000 other families deal privately with the most public of tragedies.
I finally worked up the guts to go to Ground Zero [three years and] two months ago for the first time. Despite all the bickering about what the memorial should look like, there is a small memorial area set up in the interim. John's name sits at the top of one column of names on the placards commemorating those lost.
He'll always be at the top of my list.
My friend's auto repair shop is around the corner from the firehouse in Waldwick where a burnt twisted I-beam stands in Griff's memory. I pass it at least once a week and raise my Budweiser to him.
A beautiful tribute, AP.
What I learned from the attacks is that there are heroes all around us. They are the people we live with, work with, walk down the street with, etc.... They don't look to be heroes, but they willingly become the heroes when the cowards decide to act.
For many of these people, only after they have taken on the role of hero do we see the pattern of giving and caring in their life. Usually, a pattern that makes sense only when they have passed. It is for this reason, 9-11-09 for me will always be about the heroes not about the cowards.
He was truly unique and is very missed.
I decided to celebrate their lives and the gifts they gave us because if we don't the evil ones will have won and I won't give them that power...John made everyone laught like no one else could in a nice way, always had a kind heart (family tradition) and a great smile :) just to name a few :) His Grandfather (who I was named after) was the kindest most awesome person you could ever want to meet and although I was young when he passed on I still remember vividly a lot of great attributes I found in John :) God Bless his family and all those who gave their life that day and all the USA military, past, present and future!!!!!
Thank you for posting this. 3,000 people dead is a statistic, but each one is a tragedy. We must all remember that.
You honor him greatly with your stories, and what else can we humans do but rekindle the legends of those whom we loved?
Thousands of less spectacular losses of course happen all around us, all year round, but those tied to massive cultural memories loom that much larger, and so perhaps there is a tiny consolation in the shared mourning of these great people who were taken before their time.