After staying with us for about a month, ScienceGrandma is now on the plane flight back to her home. Last night was our first night without her. Below the fold, a few reflections on living with three generations under one roof.
I am happy to be returning to the master bedroom and bath, which we had given up because of accessibility issues. For the duration of her visit, we'd moved a guest bed into my home office and I'd cleared off some bookshelves for clothes. Two adults and a toddler in a single tiny bathroom gets a bit crowded, especially because of needing to keep everything out of a climbing toddler's reach. And I'll be thrilled to have a proper dresser back, though I've actually really enjoyed having a comfy place to grade papers so close at hand to my computer and desk. (In the long-term, I'd like to buy a comfy paper-grading chair for the office.)
But those creature comforts are only part of the story. I'm really going to miss having my mom around. I was incredibly busy most of the time she was here, and her mobility was pretty limited, so it's not like we had exciting adventures or every night gab sessions, but it was nice to check in with her each day and know if she was doing fine or was in pain. As a younger woman, I once thought that I could never again manage to live with my mom, and visits home are always a bit awkward. But with this extended visit from her, in my own house, I see that it's really been about my independence as an adult, and that my independence won't be taken away if my mom comes to stay. For the first time, I can imagine a happy co-existence with her, should she ever be in a position of wanting to do so. So I feel like my relationship with my mom is strengthened from our time together under my roof, but even more importantly, Minnow's relationship with SciGram is stronger than ever.
Minnow and SciGram would play, sing, and read books together in the morning as I got ready for work. When SciGram started physical therapy, it worked to keep Minnow home in the mornings until SciGram's appointment. Minnow always wants to make sure that the important people are going to come along on any ventures away from the house, and it didn't take long before the refrain became: "Mommy come to the store. Daddy come to the store. SciGram come to the store. PrincessPup not come to the store." Minnow decided that she loved to eat oatmeal for breakfast, because she saw her grandma doing so. Minnow has a magnetic drawing pad, and she took great delight in asking SciGram to draw dinosaurs or other creatures, in order to erase them moments later. Then she'd want another dinosaur, ... repeating the process many times over. In the evenings, Minnow wanted to play in SciGram's room, climbing up onto the bed, bringing along books, blankets, and stuffed animals. A few evenings, Minnow, SciGram, and I lay on the big bed with the lights out, singing and telling stories until Minnow was just about asleep. Both Minnow and I learned some new songs that way (Minnow's new favorite is unfortunate, whereas mine is much more calming), and Minnow was fascinated that some familiar songs could be sung as rounds. I'll treasure those times watching Minnow and SciGram interact and I hope that they can have many more years of enjoying time with each other, in short visits, and maybe in extended stays.
Little bunny foo foo is far from unfortunate! There's a moral there, right?
It *is* unfortunate if you are requested to sing it 55 times in a row.
I'm reassured to hear your story.
My husband, toddler, and I are moving in with my mother this spring. She gets the master bedroom, bath (in which we put a washer and dryer), huge closet, and her own living room. My husband and I get the attic (which we hope to turn into a master bedroom of our own), a living room, dining room, kitchen, laundry room, bathroom, and two bedrooms.
I'm hoping it goes well, especially since we're buying a house together. I'm a firm believes in multi-generational families, thinking that my daughter will find her grandmother's knowledge useful - and that my mother will help contribute to the household, even though she's working outside the home and I'm not.
Wow, that does sound reassuring... also, another good pointer for (soothing) music... I'm glad you had such a positive time :-)
I love the image of all three of you snugged up in bed reading books and singing songs.
PrincessPup doesn't get to go to the store?! I bet she would love it! :)
Any song sung 55 times in a row probably gets to be a bit unfortunate, though I admit to being a foo foo fan myself when I was younger :) Glad to hear that the time was well spent together. I hope the SciGram is well healed and ready to go home.
I'm glad you had such a good visit. I really wish our families weren't so far away... but I know I couldn't live with my mom again.
Any chance of Science grandma moving in for good?
Any chance of Science grandma moving in for good?
Probably not any time soon. But I am learning that you never quite know what the future holds.
SW, glad to hear you had such a rewarding visit with your mom.
I had a wonderful time and will remember our songs, stories, quiet talks, science chats, and Little Bunny FooFoo. I found it rather humorous that Science Woman dislikes FooFoo as much as I did when she, as a little girl, taught her younger brother that song. Thanks, Sciencedaughter, for the good time.